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[Hayde]

I am always available Let's see who can drive the other crazier first
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I know not with what weapons World War III will be fought, but World War IV will be fought with sticks and stones.
Albert Einstein

[RedRose]

[Hayde]

Be careful
adopting doesn't equal fostering
Adopting is forever, fostering is until the parents are Ok, or they find someone who can adopt them.

The government pays enough for food and rent, but my parents always had to buy clothing and presents for birthdays and stuff. Plus, anytime we went out to a restaurant, movie, etc. my parents paid. I have heard some foster parents leave the children at home when they go out, but that is not usual, plus I think it is evil... But we had enough money so it wasn't a problem (we are not rich though, I had to pay all of my university by myself ).
I don't have time now, but I will talk about how it affected me later. I have class now. I love my students
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I know not with what weapons World War III will be fought, but World War IV will be fought with sticks and stones.
Albert Einstein

[RedRose]

ok, have fun with your class. but don't forget to write the story when you have time. I have already read too much in it!!! and I respect your parents for what they have done to those poor kids.

[Hayde]

How it affected me?

Well on the plus side, I have an amazing amount of patience. That is probably why I am good with children. You have to be patient when there are 9 children in the house, some of them with very big problems. Also, if I wanted my parents attention, I would sometimes have to wait, but my parents always showed me love. I think this has allowed me to be more independent. I have always been more independent than most other people my age.
Also, I never get really angry and am very easy going, again, when you have an autistic child or a child with ADHD in your room, and they break your toys, you have to learn quickly it's not really that bad. Also, I had a new brother or sister all the time

On the down side, I think I had to mature too quickly. My parents never told me stories, but I am very curious and would listen to conversations and find out about the other children. I learned things about Canadian society that most adults still don't know or understand. Also, I tend not to form as many lasting relationships as other people. When you have a new brother move into your house and you get along well, and then he leaves after 6 months and you are not allowed to talk to him, you have to learn how to easily forget about people. I think sometimes I can break a relationship too easily with any major side effects. This is good when I break up with a girl, cause it doesn't really ever bother me, but maybe that isn't so good, I don't know.

That's just how I see myself, but humans are never very good at judging themselves. But if I could have said don't do it to my parents, I wouldn't. I think it helped me very much in life to see and help people every day. When you see that one of your "foster" brothers or sisters does well in life and goes to university after we helped them instead of becoming a drug addicted prostitute like their mother, there is no way I could say no to doing it.

The biggest thing is I know I have a good life.
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I know not with what weapons World War III will be fought, but World War IV will be fought with sticks and stones.
Albert Einstein

[RedRose]

Hayde, I must admit that you had a special and amazing childhood.

Personally, I think your good patience is mainly from gene or your parents. you see, if your parents hadn't been patient, how could they have fostered those kids for a long time? a group went back to their parents, and then another group came to your house!! again and again! frankly, I don't think I could become as noble-minded and patient as your parents.

one more thing I wanna know.... how many kids do you have?

[Agusia]

For myself I am an optimist - it does not seem to be much use being anything else...