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[ad-miral]

[Rogerlz]

[ad-miral]

Cristi said that you should wait, but "to wait" is a passive action. And only girls wait, if boys wait too, both will wait and nothing will happen.

[Cristi]

Ad-miral, you're an evil guy! You're making me look like a stupid girl... But anyhow...I think that if Roger really wants to date a girl he should tell his parents and even if they don't allow him he should assure his mum and dad that the girl is nice and polite. And maybe if his parents get to meet the girl they'll change their mind and he'll be able to have a girlfriend without hidding her; and please do not say that's a girly thing! Because it's the right way and I bet you, Ad-miral, that you only want to look like a machoman but that's not good.

Oh, one more thing, sooner or later Roger's parents will know he's dating girls without their permission and I reckon they won't be happy at all and as from I am concerned nobody wants to have problems with one's parents, right?

Anyway, have a good day Ad-miral, Roger and everyone who's reading this post! lol

Cristi.
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[Cristi]

[Rogerlz]

I always tell to my mon that I have a girlfriend, but I tell that to her joking, and she always tell me: " Is too soon for you to have a girlfriend, and don't have a realtionship with a costarrican"

I never listen to her and everytime that she said that we have a discussion, I always tell to her that not all the costarrican girls are like what you think that their are!!!

But she never believe me, and I can't convince her that there are good costarrican girls But my mon is like that, what I can do. The true is that I doesn't matter if she likes my girlfriend or not, but will be wonderfull if she change her way of thinking, or somebody tell to her that there are good costarrican girls as the same way that there are bad chinese girls.....

Have a nice day!!!
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[kritnat]

I live in Thailand. I always speak Thai for my mom my dad and my friends. But I learn in university, I learning in English program. In my classroom I must spoke English and textbook is English and my prof. they always teach in English language. In laboratory should have technical term. It technical term is English language. Now, I used Thai and English language in my life. Ever though I use English language everyday but I am not sure for speaking, listening, and writing. I think English language and another is good for life at now. Because it take my life is easy. In a future, sometime I go to travel to other country, English language is not problem for me.


Sirinapha Phawo

[ad-miral]

Cristi, haha, yeah I admit I'm very evil, I rather rely on my brain than on my heart. And that's what Rogerlz's parents are doing, too- Rely on the brain.

The parents are fearing that Rogerlz will get a big disappointment if the girl leaves him. You know Chinese parents want to help their children very much to let them feel happy. They think it's their duty. This is very different from Western parents, who just let their children live their own life, they think that will make their children happy.

And relationships in young age will probably brake, more probable than if you are in adult age. So as his Chinese parents don't want Rogerlz to be hurt and as they don't want Rogerlz to do an unprofitable investment, they don't want Rogerlz to date.

At the end: The parents don't want Rogerlz to be hurt because they think Western girls are unfaithful, so they forbid Rogerlz to meet the Costarican girl. But they are only doing it to let Rogerlz feel happy.

So what's the most probable solution? Rogerlz should develope this relationship secretly, without letting the parents know it. And when the Costarican girl is very much in love with him, and he is very much in love with her, then he can show her to the parents. The parents will see: Ohh wow a Western girl who is so much in love with our son, and our son so much in love with her...

The will get a big crush of emotion and at the end they will allow Rogerlz to be in love with her.

That's my scenario, and so I think the best for Rogerlz is to meet the girl in secret. Or do you want him to wait all day, think about her very much, being very stupid, and find out at the end that the girl has found another boy?
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