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[RedRose]

Just because you are not a woman, so you don't exactly know what a woman feels when she has to face a sexless life for 30 years! but you can try to see this problem from a visual angle of human being. In this respect, women feel the same way as men do.

FYI, of course she should tell her fiance the truth that she would still take care of her ex-husband after getting married, if he is ok with her ex-husband, that would be great. but if he is unwilling, then it's ok; she can picks another one. if none would marry such a woman with an "encumbrance", then she HAS TO continue taking care of her husband with no sex. I mean, she has to! since she didn't wanna leave her husband, and none would marry her, then she had no alternative. but that's still a bitter life for her. and I don't see what's moving in the story, I just see a woman's bitterness and unfair situation.

Marine, you should try to consider people's feelings from their own angle. don't come to a conclusion superficially.

[Marine]

The first time I heard the news I considered neither the wife's exaclty feeling nor the detail of their real life as you said. But when you set forth your opposite thought, I started shifting myself with wife, imaging that if I were she, what should I do? Though I am not female and I can't exaclty understand what she exact thought, I can still image embarrassment she would meet!

1. As I mentioned before, if she married another man, whether her fiancee would be glad ? Of cause, she would marry nobody until she meet an open-minded man as you said.

2. But what would her ex-husband think of? whether he would agree with her? How can she persuade him to accept it?

3. If she married another man, Who would foster their child? Is it helpful for the growing up of their child.

If the woman could resolve all these problems with well communication, that would be really Okey. perfect!
But if she was careless of other's feeling and just married anther man, I think she was really selfish.

But she did not marry another one indeed, I don't know whether she had considered all these problems above, if she did , I think she was great because of her selflessness.

And I also can image how difficultly they lived their lifes, the woman's bitterness and the sence the whole family holding together for life.

Great? yes, we have different defination of it? Perhaps, I should say I respect the woman very much.
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[RedRose]

[Marine]

[Marine]

And I respect your choise, too! Redrose!
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[RedRose]