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nicyvesweet
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 Posted: Sat Dec 25, 2004 4:44 am Post subject: This one is a little unorthodox, but... |
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I'll be leaving for Osaka in the spring and I was wondering...Should I just abandon the idea of having a sex life while in Japan?
I've been reading posts in the forums, and the women of Japan seem to have the competition (not-even-remotely-short-foreigners) hemmed up. So, shall I just accept the future lack of action with a smile and a nod, or should I begin a support group for forced-into-celibacy women?
BTW, this question is all in fun.  |
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denise
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There are still men over here who aren't ashamed to be seen with us Western Gals, so there is hope for you!
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Glenski
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And, what's wrong with dating a Japanese man?
Take a peek at Being A Broad in Japan (book and web site) to see if this topic is covered. |
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denise
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I don't know if the OP had a certain type of man in mind, but I was referring to both Japanese and foreign men.
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nicyvesweet
Joined: 21 Dec 2004
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| Posted: Sat Dec 25, 2004 10:09 pm Post subject: |
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| Glenski wrote: |
And, what's wrong with dating a Japanese man?
Take a peek at Being A Broad in Japan (book and web site) to see if this topic is covered. |
Nothing at all. Just making conversation. |
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urbanrail
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As a man who teaches in Asia I can say, a western woman should have nothing to fear. I've seen white female teachers at my training centre constantly hit on, especially by local men. Hell, I think it's nice having a girl from back home to spend time with... takes the curb off of the culture shock!  |
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melirae
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| With the exception of the icky old men who will stare at you with no shame, I find that so far the Japanese guys seem really intimidated by Western girls- not that I have seriously hit on any because I find stimulating conversation a very important factor in a relationship (I teach 8 hours a day and I don't want to come home to someone who I have to speak to like a student). However, when my friends and I go out in clubs the J-guys seem completely shocked when we dance with them and some even a little frightened. And the J-girls give looks that could kill!!! Be careful of the stiletto boots!! |
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nicyvesweet
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| urbanrail wrote: |
| I've seen white female teachers at my training centre constantly hit on... |
how fab.  |
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Lynn
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| urbanrail wrote: |
| As a man who teaches in Asia I can say, a western woman should have nothing to fear. I've seen white female teachers at my training centre constantly hit on, especially by local men. Hell, I think it's nice having a girl from back home to spend time with... takes the curb off of the culture shock! |
Oh, I agree. The local guys definitely find an interest in "Western" girls. Also had quite a few mothers who wanted to hook me up with their sons. And if you are not into J guys, don't worry cuz there are plenty of other English teachers. There is quite a bit hooking up going on. I think it has something to do with being in a foreign country and experiencing new things creates some sort of bond that often leads to more. |
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nicyvesweet
Joined: 21 Dec 2004
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| Posted: Fri Dec 31, 2004 8:56 pm Post subject: |
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| Lynn wrote: |
| urbanrail wrote: |
| As a man who teaches in Asia I can say, a western woman should have nothing to fear. I've seen white female teachers at my training centre constantly hit on, especially by local men. Hell, I think it's nice having a girl from back home to spend time with... takes the curb off of the culture shock! |
Oh, I agree. The local guys definitely find an interest in "Western" girls. Also had quite a few mothers who wanted to hook me up with their sons. And if you are not into J guys, don't worry cuz there are plenty of other English teachers. There is quite a bit hooking up going on. I think it has something to do with being in a foreign country and experiencing new things creates some sort of bond that often leads to more. |
maybe i'm just going insane...  |
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johanne
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| In 4 years in Japan I dated a British guy, a French one and finally married a Japanese one, so I don't think you'll be celibate unless it's your choice. |
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melirae
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OK! Now I feel like the ugly girl at the dance sitting in the corner with no offers!
I did find that the J-guys were much more festive on New Year's Eve (amazing how much courage champagne gives them!) and way more agressive about approaching me. I also met a nice Western guy, who was unfortunately a tourist.
I guess I am more hesitant to get involved with someone here based on my plan that I may leave in a year and would really like to go back to my home country. Meeting someone and getting involved in a serious relationship would force me to make choices about my life that I don't think I'm ready to make.
So I guess I am one of those people who is single by choice.... |
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osakajojo
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It really is no problem. When going out, I see gaijin girls with J guys, J girls with gaijin guys, gaijin guys with gaijin girls and J girls with J guys. And being gaijin, it doesn't matter your ethnicity. With a good personality, you will easily find guys.
Many of my male students would ask me if I knew any gaijin girls that I could hook them up with. It seemed that at my school, just a lot of the female teachers were not attracted to very many of the guy students as there were many hot J girls that the male teachers were attracted to.
However, the male teachers may just be more vocale about it. |
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SEndrigo
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| Posted: Mon Jan 10, 2005 1:18 pm Post subject: Re: This one is a little unorthodox, but... |
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| nicyvesweet wrote: |
I'll be leaving for Osaka in the spring and I was wondering...Should I just abandon the idea of having a sex life while in Japan?
I've been reading posts in the forums, and the women of Japan seem to have the competition (not-even-remotely-short-foreigners) hemmed up. So, shall I just accept the future lack of action with a smile and a nod, or should I begin a support group for forced-into-celibacy women?
BTW, this question is all in fun. |
Definitely not true, my Australian co-worker gets hit on all the time by Japanese guys!
And this is in the Tokyo area, you may have even better luck in Osaka since people over there are a bit friendlier and more outspoken.
cheers |
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chi-chi-
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| You'll get hit on by the Western guys, too. |
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