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tedkarma · Posted: Sun Apr 24, 2005 12:06 am Post subject:

Call me na�ve but I suggest you consider someone you fall in love with and find yourself compatible with � then worry all those other things.

Roger · Joined: 19 Jan 2003 Posts: 9138

Two thoughts occurred to me:
This man is concerned about "tradition", by which he curiously seems to mean customs and habits that were "modern" for thousands of years before the Industrial Revolution - not sure if he can imagine that Asian traditions may vary slightly from the Judeo-Christian tradtions of old.

The other thought was: maybe he simply wants an infusion of fresh blood from a different source so as to upgrade his genetic pool. A designer of new mixed-blood ethnicities then! Crazy indeed!

Doglover · Joined: 14 Dec 2004 Posts: 305 Location: Kansai

Gordon · Joined: 28 Jan 2003 Posts: 5309 Location: Japan

Wow what a post! Perhaps you should try SE Asia as your description does not seem to describe many Korean or Japanese women. They are much too complex for you.
I'm with Ted, find the woman first.
You also seem pretty desperate.

marblez · Joined: 24 Oct 2004 Posts: 248 Location: Canada

njitalian,

Most wives and mothers would LOVE to devote all their time to raising their children instead of working full-time.

Of course, the men that they marry do not have the kind of employment that would allow them to do this.

Then again, if you had any serious experience with women who were at the maturity level to marry, you would know this. Since you don't, it's obvious that you aren't in a position to get married.

Doglover · Joined: 14 Dec 2004 Posts: 305 Location: Kansai

schwa · Joined: 12 Oct 2003 Posts: 164 Location: yap

You guys are being much too kind to this poster. He's fantasizing about a domestic slave & deserves a slapdown. Loser at home, seems pretty obvious.

Babala · Joined: 28 Jan 2005 Posts: 1303 Location: Henan

There are poor provinces in China where you can just buy a wife. Why not just get a mail-order bride and then you won't even have to make the trip over here to get your little slave wife who will cook, clean and never talk back Mad

anthyp · Joined: 16 Apr 2004 Posts: 1320 Location: Chicago, IL USA

Hey, I thought there was a recent thread about being nice to the newbies.

Although I agree, it's pretty tough to take this guy seriously. I would think, for one, that Asian girls open enough to dating foreigners are interested in us primarily because we don't expect them to live those traditional, "honor your husband" - type lifestyles the local males expect them to. Am I wrong about that?

I am dating an Asian girl, too, who works (and actually makes more than I do, ahem). I think she is not an exception to the rule; more and more of these girls want to get out of the house, make their own rules, and so on. What you are looking for is what many Chinese men seem to want, and as I said before, I think that's why they get attracted to us in the first place.

I think it's wrong to badger the guy for his Neandertal expectations for a wife; well if not wrong, then at least unnecessary. We all have our preferences for what what kind of partner we'd like to end up with; at least he's honest with himself. I think if you are going to warn him off, it'd be because he's got the wrong idea of what Asian girls are like; not because you disagree with his somewhat oafish preconceptions. But maybe I am being a bit PC here (or not PC enough?).

Oh well, his questions are pretty silly, but we've seen worse reasons for wanting to get into TEFL.