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nomadder · Posted: Mon Apr 17, 2006 12:36 am Post subject: Gaijin & Gaijin

Wondering how many people know of gaijin (or gaikokujin) who have met and dated long term or married other gaijin while in Japan. I can think of about one couple, now married. He's German and neither ever dated Japanese. He said he wanted deep convos not possible with Jwomen. He wasn't an English teacher obviously.

Wondering how often it happens as I've done the Jboy dating scene and it would take a very rare type to peak my interest now. I've seen other types of foreigners who gravitate to each other while abroad but unfortunately it doesn't always(often?) happen for anglos. Either it's the nature of the beast or the fact that we can usually find someone who speaks our lingo well enough.

Sweetsee · Joined: 11 Jun 2004 Posts: 2302 Location: ) is everything

Was married for seven years with a Spaniard but can't think of a single other g/g couple. Now enjoying domestic bliss with a Japanese national raised in England. Life is good.

nomadder · Posted: Mon Apr 17, 2006 12:56 am Post subject:

Yes Sweetsee this is the rare type I'm talking about. Good for you.

Sweetsee · Joined: 11 Jun 2004 Posts: 2302 Location: ) is everything

You mean meeting a native that speaks English with a British accent? Yeah it is sweet, you get all the benefits of J-nationality with the western mind-set.

Thanks Nomadder,
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P.S. Cool avatar!

nomadder · Posted: Mon Apr 17, 2006 2:03 am Post subject:

See below.

nomadder · Posted: Mon Apr 17, 2006 2:08 am Post subject:

Hey does he have a brother? Wink

That sounds great. I could learn to like the British accent again. Hopefully without all the drinking/anger issues. Sorry but you Brits know it's true. Otherwise you would've stayed home and taken "holidays".

kdynamic · Joined: 05 Nov 2005 Posts: 562 Location: Japan

It happens all the time! I know an American and a Brit (engaged), an Irish girl with a Canadian, Canadian on Canadian, a pair of Brits and a pair of Americans who are from the same town in Georgia but didn't meet until they got here. And I just started seeing a Korean guy (I'm American)... Does Korean count in the same catagory? Well anyway, the point is it isn't rare. I mean, it seems like a no-brainer, since people who chose to come here obviously have at least some interests in common, and it's far easier to seriously date someone if you share a culture and language. Me, I go for the Asian guys but if I wanted a white boy I could have one easily.

Jazz1975 · Joined: 14 Feb 2006 Posts: 301 Location: Zama, Kanagawa

Not there yet, but I see myself with another "gaijin" due to the shared language and culture and possibly other interests as well. That, plus the fact that Asian men seriously DO NOT turn me on. Laughing

wolfman · Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 189

as a single american guy with a thing for irish girls... this thread fascinates me

Very Happy

Apsara · Joined: 20 Sep 2005 Posts: 2142 Location: Tokyo, Japan

My Welsh friend met and married an American in Japan a few years back. She was an eikaiwa teacher, he was civilian IT staff on the Yokosuka base. They continued living here for several years after getting married, and now live in England.

I (a Kiwi) dated a couple of gaijin guys (separately) here, but ended up marrying a Japanese. This in spite of having the same views as Jazz1975 when I arrived!

6810 · Joined: 16 Nov 2003 Posts: 309

abufletcher · Posted: Mon Apr 17, 2006 6:38 am Post subject: Re: Gaijin & Gaijin

6810 · Joined: 16 Nov 2003 Posts: 309

I guess it depends on...

a. How you define a "deep convo"

b. What you are trying to get out of said "convo"

c. Why you're having the "convo"

d. If you even need the "convo"

My $0.02 Wink

luckyloser700 · Joined: 24 Mar 2006 Posts: 308 Location: Japan

Jazz1975 · Joined: 14 Feb 2006 Posts: 301 Location: Zama, Kanagawa