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SuperFly · Joined: 09 Jul 2003 Location: In the doghouse

Visited a friend back east over the holiday, has 2 daughters ages 1 and 3.

This is not the same man I went to college with....he's changed dramatically in the past few years...In his own words,

Badgie · Joined: 13 Nov 2006 Location: Stuck in idle mode

I'm Female and ticked the "I don't know" button.

I is a development of late that having a child or two doesn't sound like a tragedy in the making. I will admit that everyone getting sprogged up and popping out adorable little gents over then last two years has given me a sort of curiosity to see what I could do, however, I remain in the undecided category because I know that I have no desire to be a mum on my own. I have a fantastic father (mum is rather nice too). He was very involved in my life and the lives of all the other kids. I wouldn't want my child to go without a daddy's love and attention. You see the hurt in people when their dad eff's off and abandons them. This is perhaps is a weak and bitter sounding thing to say, but I don't want to go it alone. That thought just scares me. A man buggering off and leaving a woman is a minor drama, leaving his kids is criminal. A kid deserves better than that. If I was sure that the prospective dad would always want his kid, regardless of how he felt about me, I think that I would seriously consider motherhood.

rockstarsmooth · Joined: 01 Aug 2006 Location: anyang, baybee!

i'm female, i want kids.
i sure do want kids! my wife and i are planning on getting a couple of kids, 2 or 3, over the next few years, once i'm settled down enough to return home. we'll be adopting, i can't have kids, she doesn't really want to pop one out, and there are too many kids on the planet already without families. i really like kids, i've got names picked out, and i am always so envious of my pregnant friends. i'm 32, so my clock is ticking away ~ i want them now! but my wife is only 26, so she's not as keen as i am, she's not feeling any particular pressure. it'll happen, eventually.
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right now i'm listening to: wolf parade - we built another world

peony · Joined: 30 Mar 2005

my clock is definitely ticking as im 31 and feel like 35 should be my deadline for making babies.. but alas, im unmarried and to be honest dont want to start for at least 2 years because i feel like i havent travelled enough to settle down yet

Young FRANKenstein · Posted: Mon Jan 15, 2007 11:50 pm Post subject:

aldershot · Joined: 17 Jul 2006

aldershot · Joined: 17 Jul 2006

and it is mad the amount of dudes wanting babies. i'm guessing the typical expat female voice is one of independence. good on it!!

Manner of Speaking · Joined: 09 Jan 2003

I honestly don't think having kids is in the cards for me, and I've felt that way since a young age. I respect anyone who does decide that they want to start a family, and certainly wish them every happiness; live and let live, as they say.

But one thing I do despise...people who are absolutely convinced the only way to live is to have kids, and who think that people who differ from them are somehow...immature, irresponsible, selfish, or somehow don't have their personal act together. A few years ago I saw a movie with Hugh Grant called About A Boy...if any of you have ever seen it, it's very offensive. It brands people who are uninterested in having children as absolute losers. Even though the lead female in the movie was a total screwup who depended on everyone around her just to function - even her kid!

Big_Bird · Posted: Wed Jan 17, 2007 12:40 am Post subject:

Big_Bird · Posted: Wed Jan 17, 2007 12:43 am Post subject:

I used to envy people who knew for sure if they wanted them or not. I was never very sure. If they happen they happen, I said. And they happened.

ChimpumCallao · Joined: 17 May 2005 Location: your mom

Satori · Joined: 09 Dec 2005 Location: Above it all

numazawa · Joined: 20 Mar 2005 Location: The Concrete Barnyard

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ariellowen · Joined: 19 Apr 2006

You can put me down for yes, children wanted.

Cheonmunka · Joined: 04 Jun 2004

I want to use rollercoaster as a metaphor for family.
Raising children, as a father (or a mother after the birth pains have susided) is like being a rollercoaster manager.
He has a slow one that doesn't twist around so much. But, the children are always looking for (and seem to need - in their determined eyes) an upgrade. All he can do is keep the old one under constant repair and keep feeling like he's a poor man who can only but keep the foundations in good order. Beyond that he can't really make much more of things.

That's the thing with raising a family. He will always feel like he has his lot in life. But, little issues like not getting a promotion or something, will be swept away and forgotten in an abundance of love by strange little people who as it turns out and despite their complaints actually enjoy the ride.