Korean Job Discussion Forums

[Adventurer]

Have any of you been in a situation where one of your adult students was an amazing, cute, sweet, and amazingly attractive femme? It is hard not to notice your beauty and warmth and her being single. Of course, my job is being the teacher. I am friendly, but I've got a job to do. I can't say that I don't feel any warm feelings since I do. She doesn't know that much English, but she is learning rapidly.
I always like to be professional and not mix work with the thinking of a man.

Just wondering if anyone has been through these thoughts whether you are a male or female.

[mateomiguel]

um...

yes.

once and I was a professional about it. Boring story, nothing happened. said i'd never do that again.

other times I was all "lets meet after class" about it, no bad consequences, sometimes awesome results.

I advise you to make your move, take advantage as much as possible, and you can both enjoy yourselves. Also, maybe I'm a big nerd, but its freakin awesome for me to hear, "you're my teacher, I'll do whatever you say. teach me." and they're not talkin about english!

[RACETRAITOR]

There's a particular relationship between a teacher and student and it's wrong for a teacher to make advances on a student. That said, hakwons aren't exactly the pillar of education so if you don't respect the business/field/company, knock your desperate self out.

And yes, I have been attracted to students. But never enough to do anything.

[Adventurer]

[thebum]

they're adults. they can make decisions for themselves. who cares? go for it! i think people need to get it on more anyway.

[SuperFly]

We dogs have an expression, not sure if you humans ever heard of it.

Never poopy where you eat. In other words - well you get the picture.

[RACETRAITOR]

[mole]

You ARE on a mission. Just say so!

My first year in Korea, there were us 3 American male teachers at the hogwan. The owner forbid us to date students.
"Korea must keep the bloodline clean!"
2 of us married students, I had a longterm relationship with another.

I eventually married a Korean woman. (not a student)

[RACETRAITOR]

[mole]

[RACETRAITOR]

I'm trying to have a level-headed conversation, but my mom's a teacher and she drilled it into my head that teachers dating students is the ultimate sign of unprofessionality.

[mole]

[Son Deureo!]

I'd never recommend this if you're teaching her at a university, but if you're teaching her at a hogwon, then you're not giving her grades that will have an impact on her life so there isn't really that much of an ethical quandary here, IMHO. Does your school even have a policy against dating students? Many adult hogwons don't. Use a little bit of discretion for the sake of the school's reputation and both of your dignity, and don't treat her any differently from any other student inside the classroom and you should be fine.

If your K-coworker is inviting both of you to hang out together outside of work, that sounds like your in. Use it.

Otherwise, you could always invite the whole class to go out together, giving you another chance to get to know her in a less formal setting. End of month/semester 쫑파티s are a great excuse for this.

You're both consenting adults, don't let the job that allowed you to meet in the first place interfere with what could turn out to be a good thing.

Good luck.

[crsandus]

[Adventurer]