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Wisconsinite
Joined: 05 Jan 2007
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I think most of the ladies on here have it right. There are good and bad ones and sometimes they work and sometimes they don't. I lived in a small town and soon found myself accepting dates from Korean men (even when I thought I never would). I went through a few bad ones and a few good ones and some that just couldn't get it right. I have a good one now but we have our share of problems just like any other couple. There are moments when I look at him and see our future and moments when I want to strangle him! I am absolutely 100% sure he feels the same way.... 
Dating someone cross-culturally takes patience and understanding. Family, language, culture, friends, jobs, distance can all put stress on a relationship. Love cannot conquer everything but commitment, communication, and time can. It's not always easy but the pay offs can be very good in the end.
So give it a go.....you just never know what can happen! |
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princess
Joined: 16 Jan 2003
Location: soul of Asia
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| Posted: Fri Feb 02, 2007 12:38 am Post subject: |
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Thanks for the support everybody. The main obstacle to having a relationship while he's in the army is that it would have to be a fairly phone-based relationship, and he is TERRIBLE at holding conversations on the phone. His English is pretty good face to face, but he has real problems speaking English on the phone if he can't read facial expressions/body language. So we're just calling it "friends" for now and seeing how it plays out.
I'm just taking it in stride and deciding this is a sign that I need to get out and meet new people. I relied on him way too much in terms of socialization, since I live in an area where it's hard to meet English speakers. So hell yes I'm ready to mingle. |
When a man says "let's be friends" it could mean he knows he won't see you for awhile and he just doesn't want you to worry and be sad while the two of you are apart. It could also be code for...I want to sleep or try to sleep with other girls. In this case, what a dumbass! |
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princess
Joined: 16 Jan 2003
Location: soul of Asia
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| Posted: Thu Feb 22, 2007 2:02 am Post subject: |
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| jessie-b wrote: |
| So I went out with a Korean guy but he ended up being a girl. Then I went out with another one and he said nothing serious could ever happen between us because he needed to eventually meet someone his parents would approve of. That's life though. |
At least guy number 2 told you upfront that he cared about mommy and daddy's opinions too much. He didn't lead you on for YEARS and even talk about marrying you and taking you to his family's home and telling his parents you were his English teacher, dump you, see a Korean girl last year, then see you again this year, give you some gifts and leave to go to Japan for 2 weeks.....then come back and start working at a new place, and NOT tell you. But, I am resourceful...I found his new job and I should go there and call him on his bull$%^&  |
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Adventurer
Joined: 28 Jan 2006
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| Posted: Thu Feb 22, 2007 3:10 am Post subject: |
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I haven't really dated a Korean girl before. I find many attractive and many seem sweet, but I have dated a girl from another culture that was somewhat conservative, and it was rough dealing with the parents and being hidden from them and all that jazz. So unless I meet a Korean girl who is kind of clearly not stuck to her parents, then I am not going to bother. I want to be choosy. Of course, it depends on what you want. If you want a serious relationship with a Korean girl or guy but not necessarily marriage per se and that it might end, it might not really matter who you date. There are definite advantages to dating Koreans, but I think I'll stick with someone like me first - a fellow teacher who speaks English like me and is really worth it. There are many great relationships between Koreans and non-Koreans. You also have to consider you may want to go back and many of the men not want to, and you could end up spending the rest of your days here far from family.
Of course, that is very forward thinking but something to consider. |
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Ody
Joined: 27 Jan 2003
Location: over here
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| Posted: Thu Feb 22, 2007 3:51 am Post subject: |
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So I think I've experienced how/why the Mommy complex is so prevalent in Korean society. When I went to visit my Mother (this was the second time I saw her after I found her after my adoption) I find out that she bought underwear for me!!! I thought "WTF? No one's bought underwear for me since... 6th grade!" anyway, after I tried desperately to tell her in English to take them back and that I had plenty of good underwear, she mistook my pleas for "Please let me exchange the underwear you bought me for different styled pairs and please let us do this together."
Needlessly to say, I refused to step into the store once I realized what was happening and stood outside with an embarrassed look upon my face.
Oh and to stay on topic, I think all attractive females should date Korean men... especially gyopos that are around 5'11", 170lbs, nice, fluent in English, don't have Mommy dependencies, and have Polish last names. |
my mil still buys my husband's underwear (socks too) which is fine with me. it's just one less thing we have to worry about. |
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JeJuJitsu
Joined: 11 Sep 2005
Location: McDonald's
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| Posted: Thu Feb 22, 2007 5:37 am Post subject: |
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| How do you ladies married to Ajosshi's reconcile the fact that for a Korean man, his standing in his circle of friends depends on how often he goes to/spends on prostitutes? |
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Satori
Joined: 09 Dec 2005
Location: Above it all
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| Posted: Thu Feb 22, 2007 8:02 am Post subject: |
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| JeJuJitsu wrote: |
| How do you ladies married to Ajosshi's reconcile the fact that for a Korean man, his standing in his circle of friends depends on how often he goes to/spends on prostitutes? |
Well, they don't have to, because it doesn't ... |
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twg
Joined: 02 Nov 2006
Location: Getting some fresh air...
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| Posted: Thu Feb 22, 2007 10:07 am Post subject: |
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| The peer pressure would surprise you. |
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Ody
Joined: 27 Jan 2003
Location: over here
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| Posted: Thu Feb 22, 2007 2:34 pm Post subject: |
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| JeJuJitsu wrote: |
| How do you ladies married to Ajosshi's reconcile the fact that for a Korean man, his standing in his circle of friends depends on how often he goes to/spends on prostitutes? |
this has to be one of the stupidest thing i've read in these forums. |
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Ody
Joined: 27 Jan 2003
Location: over here
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| Posted: Thu Feb 22, 2007 2:36 pm Post subject: |
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| JeJuJitsu wrote: |
| How do you ladies married to Ajosshi's reconcile the fact that for a Korean man, his standing in his circle of friends depends on how often he goes to/spends on prostitutes? |
this has to be one of the stupidest thing i've read in these forums.
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The peer pressure would surprise you. |
are you sure you're okay, living so far from home (and high school)? |
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