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[gsxr750r]

Does your Korean bf or gf insist on getting your passwords to e-mail, cyworld, etc., to "check on you?" Does he/she grab your phone and start scanning through it to see who called you, what photos you've taken, or who is on your phone list?

I hear this is common in Korea, and I also know of a few similar situations myself.

Would this kind of thing make you uncomfortable? Doesn't it seem a bit too controlling, and stink of a lack of trust?

Your thoughts?

[mehamrick]

My girlfriend will check my phone over a few times.. I have never had her ask for the email or messenger accounts yet.. I kind of gave her the rule if she ask me for it i will gladly show her.. If she rips it out of my hand I will treat her like a two year old kid and smack her hand and say " no you don't grab things from other peoples hands without permission" she is starting to get the idea after getting smacked a couple times. she now politely ask me for it, and I give it to her..

[maeil]

[ChinaBoy]

this would be grounds for instant termination

[sock]

My thought is that healthy relationships (ie, the kind that you WANT to last) allow each party to have some personal space. I think that some degree of privacy regarding one's own email and phone calls is important. Lack of trust can kill any relationship, but so can lack of personal space/privacy. Especially for a relationship in its early stages. After 50 years together, personal privacy might not be so important.

For me, no privacy=no respect=suffocation. But that's me. I guess if a lack of privacy isn't a big deal to you, then it's fine. But does she/he offer their passwords too, or does this street only run one way? Some people are way too interested in other people's business. This might be a good time to explain the saying "curiosity killed the cat." Or maybe to explain that since you're not in prison, you won't be needing your own personal guard/warden/parole officer.

[jaganath69]

[Odannyboy]

had a korean gf the first year I was here and she was always trying to get in my business...so i let her...when she saw all the other girls phone numbers she flipped and that ended it pretty quick

but i didn't care because, as i said, there were all those other girls from itaewon

and yeah...i know they're all sluts...but hey, what's an irishmen to do?

by the way...happy st. paddy's day!

[europe2seoul]

I was passed out after we did the deed, me being drunk. She looked at my phone then and saw other girl's messages. Didn't say anything to me after I woke up and stuff.
The next day she called her and stuff. And I had a situation of loosing both girls which is not good. Anyway, I did some fire-fighting and it was OK.

From that point on, I keep my phone with Privacy mode on. LG has a better system. On Samsung even in privacy mode you can see (preview) the message received. Bad.

[rawiri]

Isn't your girlfriend 35 or something?

[butlerian]

[europe2seoul]

[thebum]

i set my phone so you need to enter the pin to see my text messages, my phone book, and my call log . i would never give passwords to a girlfriend either.

[Qinella]

[gsxr750r]

[diver]

Another thing some of you guys might try, and it has worked well for me, is to not cheat on your girlfriend.