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[Cynical Optimist]

I decided to trust a girl most men wouldn't. Everyone told me I was being foolish. I knew the risk. I decided to take it anyway and believe in this girl. I wanted to believe that stereotypes and generalizations could be proven wrong.

Instead, I've been proven wrong. While playing innocent, she had another boyfriend on the side -- for over 5 months. And she still hasn't admitted it to me. I've had to find out from a friend. I'm pissed and hurt. But do I feel stupid, foolish, or pathetic for having trusted her? On the contrary, I just feel deep disappointment that a person could be so heartless. Why should I feel bad for having faith in a person? She's the one who has the questions to answer: Where's your decency? Where's your conscience? What kind of hollow person do you have to be to lie to the face of someone who gives you his love and treats you with nothing but respect? So ultimately, I just feel sorry for her -- sorry that this person I loved has turned out to be nothing more than a heartless, soulless, liar.

Strike one for humanity.

A soapbox message to any cheaters out there: Sack-up and make a choice. Especially if you're in a relationship where you tell the other person that you love them. Making a mistake and doing something with someone besides your significant other is understandable and forgivable -- IF you admit it and take steps to make things right. If you can't be honest, if you can't summon up the decency to have some respect for the person who loves you, then you are failing at being a human being.

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Here's a video of me and her fighting (crappy movie but OH so appropriate):

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7fe3ypneGg0

[sock]

[Ya-ta Boy]

[seoulunitarian]

I think everyone should go into a relationship (if they expect it to be long-term) with the the expectation that their partner will cheat. Not only should they have that expectation, but they should inform their partner of that expectation, and make an occassional sexual laison permissable. Sex does not = love, and the sooner couples learn that, the longer more couples will stay together. The same body gets old after a while, but true love really never withers away.

Peace

[livinginkunsan]

[oskinny1]

[jinju]

[seoulunitarian]

[endo]

[seoulunitarian]

I suppose my point is that it is human nature to have more than one sexual partner. Anyone who sits back objectively and considers the actual nature of the human species must agree. It is only the ego drive of jealousy which forbids the one we love from having other sexual experiences. It's great if two people who are also partners are able to overcome their petty jealousies and accept the nature of things. I should also add that if one partner disagrees with the above mindset, the more accepting partner should sacrifice whatever urges he or she has to the relationship if they consider the relationship worth continuing.

Peace

[R-Seoul]

What gets me is the sheer volume of women that cheat on their boyfriends/husbands etc. here. I've not been in Korea too long and already I've been with two women that were married & one that was engaged who were actively seeing other men. It does shake your belief in women somewhat, the one that was engaged only apologized to me for getting caught she didn't seem in the slightest bit bothered by the fact that she was cheating on her fianc�.

[nautilus]

...so the best conclusion to draw from this is that cheaters suck, although everyone wants to be the one she cheats with.

[endo]

[flakfizer]

[Young FRANKenstein]