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Atavistic

So! Mostly just a rant.

Long before we met, The (Korean) Boy got accepted to 8 out of 10 American grad schools he applied to. He went through the whole visa process and his parents said no, not enough money.

Saturday night The Boy's mother called him back home to complain that her husband was complaining about work. Including the fact that his company (Koreans, shock o' shock) wasn't paying him. (He works in a foreign country and has for over 15 years.)

Sunday night, completely unrelated, The Boy told his parents about me and that he was "serious" about me. I thought he'd told them before that he'd had foreign (American, Japanese, German, he's dated Koreans, too) girlfriends. No, I am the first girlfriend he ever told them about. Which is, as you know, A Very Big Deal.

Yesterday, AMAZINGLY ENOUGH they suddenly had enough money to send him to grad school. Next month.

ISN'T THAT INCREDIBLE???

spliff · Joined: 19 Jan 2004 Location: Khon Kaen, Thailand

Sounds like your boyfriend is a manipulator. He knew just how to play it w/ his parents to get his way.

Atavistic · Posted: Mon Jul 23, 2007 2:08 pm Post subject:

mindmetoo · Joined: 02 Feb 2004

Ah so they're coughing up the dough to break you two up? Most Koreans don't tell their parents about their GF/BF until they're almost ready for marriage. So clearly he was trying to drop some kind of major bomb on them. Whether planned as spliff intimates or a happy coincidence, he did get his way in the end.

Anyway, you're happy for him, right?

Atavistic · Posted: Mon Jul 23, 2007 3:39 pm Post subject:

Let me re-read my message. Did I say he was leaving?

faster · Joined: 03 Sep 2006

Is he actually considering turning down grad school in the U.S.?

If so, he's pretty short-sighted.

spliff · Joined: 19 Jan 2004 Location: Khon Kaen, Thailand

Why would he apply to so many Grad schools and go through the visa process if he wasn't gonna leave? Why don't you go w/ him? After all, marriage is at hand... Very Happy

BTW, I'm happily married so I'll have to refuse your kind offer.

mindmetoo · Joined: 02 Feb 2004

billybrobby · Joined: 09 Dec 2004

Korean parents not willing to scrimp, save and sacrifice for their son's education?

I M P O S S I B L E

I do not believe it, and I will not sit idly by while you denigrate the Korean national character. Consider yourself reported to the mods!

nateium · Joined: 21 Aug 2006 Location: Seoul

mikowee · Joined: 03 Aug 2006

Korean parents are sneaky like that. After my cousin got her first job after university, her mother convinced her to open a savings account that she can use for her eventual marriage. She was ordered to deposit 700,000 won per month, even though her salary was 1.2 mil. As time went on, her mother asked her to put in more and more money each month. Eventually, it became 1 mil. When my cousin wasn't punctual with her deposit, her mother called her up and pushed her to deposit the money. She thought her mother was just concerned for her future. But then the mother asked to have the entire account once she got married. My cousin, sweetheart that she is, agreed. Devious stuff.

I'd like to add, however, that I consider my aunt, her mother, to be a kind woman overall. She will no doubt use the money for my cousin's marriage expenses.

My girlfriend also feels that she's indebted to her parents for raising her. She gives them money regularly.

Atavistic · Posted: Tue Jul 24, 2007 4:28 am Post subject:

Mikowee gets it.

Basically, he's being punished for being the non-traditional eldest son who didn't go to SKY dammit and is in love with a white girl.

mindmetoo · Joined: 02 Feb 2004

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