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Does it stop after you tie the knot?
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bassexpander



Joined: 13 Sep 2007
Location: Someplace you'd rather be.

PostPosted: Sat Sep 22, 2007 2:14 pm    Post subject: Does it stop after you tie the knot? Reply with quote

Has sex stopped for you since you married? Or slowed down considerably? If so, was it an immediate thing, or did it take a long time for that to happen? Did it never happen?

I once knew a teacher who worked with a Korean female who flat-out told him she wanted to have sex with him because her husband never slept with her anymore. He was no longer interested. She was going nuts. By the way, her husband was another foreigner (and said teacher knew him). Nothing happened, but it got me thinking.

For me, marriage has meant less sex. We're down to once a week, where we used to go at it almost every day we met, in our courting days. Granted, we only got to meet for a day or two per week, but sometimes we met three days per week, and we did it that often. Now, no.

Maybe people aren't comfortable posting about such things, but I'm really curious what "normal" is. Feel free to PM or just post, if you like.
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Young FRANKenstein



Joined: 02 Oct 2006
Location: Castle Frankenstein (that's FRONKensteen)

PostPosted: Sat Sep 22, 2007 4:18 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

It reminds me of the old coin in the jar theory: During your first year of marriage, every time you have sex plut a quater in a jar. Then for the remainder of your marriage, every time you have sex take a quarter out of the jar. The theory is couples will very rarely empty the jar.
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Bibbitybop



Joined: 22 Feb 2006
Location: Seoul

PostPosted: Sat Sep 22, 2007 5:07 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

This makes me wonder if concubines were a bad idea.
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browneyedgirl



Joined: 17 Jul 2007

PostPosted: Sat Sep 22, 2007 6:38 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Bibbitybop wrote:
This makes me wonder if concubines were a bad idea.


It's always a bad idea for the first wife who will then be ignored. Guys have always had it so easy...
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Pak Yu Man



Joined: 02 Jun 2005
Location: The Ida galaxy

PostPosted: Sat Sep 22, 2007 6:56 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Wait til your wife get's pregnant or is in the hospital for months on end. Then complain to me about lack of sex Razz
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bassexpander



Joined: 13 Sep 2007
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PostPosted: Sat Sep 22, 2007 6:58 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

It's the other way around with my wife. I'm the one not into it so much. I guess I did every little thing I wanted, so once a week is good enough. Maybe that's normal.


Then I read stuff like this, and I get sad:

http://www.nomarriage.com/why_men_should_not_marry.html


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A few years ago I went through a major depression over this until I started talking to all the older guys I knew...and they all said the same thing; "don't do it, it's shit. Even when it's not bad, it's shit". You end up being closely tied to an old woman. Think about that. I can go to Europe or the south seas tomorrow. If I was married I wouldn't have the money and I'd have to ask HER permission. Don't get married unless you are absolutely religiously in love with her. Like carry her sick aged body to the toilet and wipe her ass and be happy to do it kind of love.

What I'm saying is that human beings are nasty weak treacherous creatures that are for the most part totally untrustworthy. Experience is my basis for this statement, both mine and others who I know or who have written reliable histories. If you can find a woman to be your companion who is not treacherous, a deceitful little actress, a sly *beep* or a manipulative nag or a shrieking hag, then you are among the lucky few. Congratulations. I hope your luck continues to hold out.
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Atavistic



Joined: 22 May 2006
Location: How totally stupid that Korean doesn't show in this area.

PostPosted: Sat Sep 22, 2007 7:28 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

OP, are you married to a Korean? Are you Korean?

http://www.nomarriage.com/why_foreign_women_are_better.html
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Cheonmunka



Joined: 04 Jun 2004

PostPosted: Sat Sep 22, 2007 7:40 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

If you marry, you made a choice. I think that All marriageable women that you met then, would have basically turned out the same. So, if you want to jeopardise or destroy your marriage, then by all means look around and act on your desire. Or, think clearly and ahead and be a pillar of support for your wife.
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Natalia



Joined: 10 Mar 2006

PostPosted: Sat Sep 22, 2007 8:15 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Okay..............

http://www.nomarriage.com/why_foreign_women_are_better.html


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After many many years of dealing with American women, I've hit an interesting point. I've lost ALL sexual interest in them, in fact I just about puke walking down the sidewalk on any day, seeing all those shitty, rude, mean, snotty American women.



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Latin American women seem to make decent wives. My friend married a hot girl from Venezuela. Sweet, beautiful, cooks, cleans, and is the perfect wife. Like how American women were in the 1950s America.



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I will go one step further and differentiate between Western women vs. non-Western women. This is not just an American phenomenon, most women in Western countries have that cold, bitchy, superficial, stuck up attitude.


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3 reasons to marry an American woman

You actually believe BBW = big BEAUTIFUL wife.
You believe nagging is essential for personal growth.
You really look forward to the day your BBW wife divorces you and you gladly fork over 50% over your hard earned assets, plus child support and alimony (a lard ass bitch for sure is not going to have a good job). Then after that you have to figure out how to live on 20% of your income.
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Big_Bird



Joined: 31 Jan 2003
Location: Sometimes here sometimes there...

PostPosted: Sat Sep 22, 2007 9:24 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

OK, I answered the question honestly, but it appears to have been interpreted by at least one poster as a dig at the OP, so I will remove it. Also, it may give some guys around here weird ideas about me, so it's probably for the best.

My question to the OP (how long have you been married) was also sincere. Perhaps in 10 years my husband and I may be less inclined. If both of us feel that way, then who will care.


Last edited by Big_Bird on Sun Sep 23, 2007 4:05 am; edited 3 times in total
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Qinella



Joined: 25 Feb 2005
Location: the crib

PostPosted: Sat Sep 22, 2007 10:05 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

The problem is that Korean women are terrible in bed, so foreign men end up just getting bored.
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VanIslander



Joined: 18 Aug 2003
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PostPosted: Sat Sep 22, 2007 10:31 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

if you tie a knot in it, ow, it'll stop
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Tarmangani



Joined: 17 Apr 2006
Location: the Calm

PostPosted: Sat Sep 22, 2007 10:37 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Try the butt.
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Cheonmunka



Joined: 04 Jun 2004

PostPosted: Sun Sep 23, 2007 3:03 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Yeah, it's definately the Op's fault.
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As for me: I've been married 3.5 years and we do it almost every day, sometimes twice, occasionally thrice. That's pretty good going considering we have to wait until the 2 kids are sleeping. Before we had kids we did it a bit more.

My wife and I only stop after five times day. Rolling Eyes
It used to be six times a day minimum before kids. Rolling Eyes

Rolling Eyes
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CeleryMan



Joined: 12 Apr 2007
Location: Seoul

PostPosted: Sun Sep 23, 2007 5:07 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Isn't a pre-nuptial the catch-all' remedy for marriage?
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