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[jinju]

Women often complain that "all the good ones are married. Inspired by http://forums.eslcafe.com/korea/viewtopic.php?t=100906

Are all the good men married and can what is available be considered either a man or good or both?

Ladies, whats your opinion?

[Atavistic]

[bassexpander]

I think that what's indicative of our society is that there is an unspoken backlash against the advances brought on by feminism.

Western women who put off considering marriage in their 20s suddenly find themselves in their 30s and less desired. I reminded my students of this. Many of my female students assume they will consider marriage when they are 30. The problem with that theory is that there is no guarentee you will be in a relationship worthy of marriage at 30, or will be able to find such a relationship soon after. Then, suddenly, they will be 35 and their looks will be going downhill fast. -- serious ajumma-land baby.

Another thing I mention: many men in their 30s are not interested in women in their 30s for a number of reasons, in no particular order:

1. Most guys don't want to have a baby out of the gate. Women these days have pushed the physical envelope right up to that 35 age line where having children becomes more difficult. Most guys I know would rather wait a few years and save money, than have a baby right away.

2. Women in their 30s, despite plastic surgery, are never going to be as sexy/wanted as women in their 20s. Of course there are exceptions, but the hard facts remain that women lose their beauty with age.

3. Many men have a biological desire to be the protector, hunter/gatherer, what have you. By their 30s, women don't need a man to care for them, and this is a turn-off for men.

I'm sure there are others I could think of, given more time.

Given these facts, the "good men" are out looking for what they consider "the good women." To men, the "good women" are the younger ones who are more physically beautiful.

I think this is part of the reason why women feel all of the good men are gone. It's generally women in their 30s who feel this way.

[Natalia]

So, it's just women who are ancient by thirty?

Men continue to be studs right into their seventies I suppose.

[bassexpander]

It's a universally-known fact that men become more distinguished-looking as they age.

Men who make a fair amount of money (though it's not always needed), and into their 30s or 40s, have a much greater chance of snagging a girl in her 20s.

It doesn't work the other way around -- only in extreme cases like Demi Moore.

[VanIslander]

[Masta_Don]

[bassexpander]

Well, if that's the type of woman you want.. then go get her!

Luckily, women in their 20s are often smart, have good jobs, and are beautiful too.

[jinju]

[Atavistic]

[indytrucks]

[jinju]

[jinju]

[Atavistic]

IndyTrucks, I was responding to Jinju's screwy logic that unmarried males=boys and only boys and married males=men and only men.

But you are right. I don't need to be bound, legally or not, to a man (or a woman) to feel validated. I don't think that's a bad thing.

Jinju, I'm done arguing with you. If I want to argue with boys, I have a school full of them. And they're still better at logic than you are.

[Alyallen]

Are all the good men married? Nope.

Maybe I don't see the big fuss because I've never made getting married a big issue. Live life the way you want to and you'll find someone who views life the same way you do. As far as I'm concerned, any man who feels that looks make or break a relationship are doing me a favor by making their intentions clear. Who wants to waste time on a guy like that? Not I.

In any event, I'm not in a rush to get married and have kids. On the other hand if I wait and try to have kids, I'm not too concerned. My mom had my sister at 42, so I'll take my chances.