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Ilsanman



Joined: 15 Aug 2003
Location: Bucheon, Korea

PostPosted: Sun Nov 09, 2003 4:01 am    Post subject: Brothers and Sisters.. Reply with quote

I get weirded out by everyone calling each other Hyeong, Nuna, Obba, Eonni, and so on.

Like...a woman will call a young waitress older sister, but if a man says nuna, they think he is gay.

I hear the students call each other that all of the time.

Even one of my friends called Nicole Kidman her older sister because she likes her.

Any thoughts?
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Zed



Joined: 20 Jan 2003
Location: Shakedown Street

PostPosted: Sun Nov 09, 2003 4:09 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

O-bah from a girlfriend is rather disturbing.
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just because



Joined: 01 Aug 2003
Location: Changwon - 4964

PostPosted: Sun Nov 09, 2003 4:21 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

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O-bah from a girlfriend is rather disturbing.


Its standard for a korean girlfriend to call her Korean boyfriend oppa. my g/f does from time to time and I'm cool with it. Now if she started calling me 'APPA' I'd start to get concerned. Very Happy

In regards to the OP, I can't see much of a problem. Its part of the language and just a form of the confucian heirachy syatem. The only problem i have is sometimes if I'm speaking Korean I goet my ohnis and nunas mixed up. Thats a bit embarresing.
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weatherman



Joined: 14 Jan 2003
Location: Korea

PostPosted: Sun Nov 09, 2003 4:30 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Zed wrote:
O-bah from a girlfriend is rather disturbing.


Dude, this is one of the greatest things about Korea. If a woman starts calling you oppa, then she has accepted you into her life, as a friend, lover whatever the relationship is. Go with it.
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peppermint



Joined: 13 May 2003
Location: traversing the minefields of caddishness.

PostPosted: Sun Nov 09, 2003 4:33 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I've got no problem with it in a non romantic but close relationship. I think of it as similar to saying,"I love him like a brother".

It's when a guy I'm dating tells me to call him "Oh-ppa" that it feels odd. Unlike maxxx_power I don't like to keep it in the family. Shocked


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the_beaver



Joined: 15 Jan 2003

PostPosted: Sun Nov 09, 2003 4:34 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

One of the few bones of contention between my girlfriend and me is that she won't call me ,����.
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weatherman



Joined: 14 Jan 2003
Location: Korea

PostPosted: Sun Nov 09, 2003 5:12 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

the_beaver wrote:
One of the few bones of contention between my girlfriend and me is that she won't call me ,����.



Horror. That would be grounds for breaking up in my book. Really, I am not kidding.
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katydid



Joined: 02 Feb 2003
Location: Here kitty kitty kitty...

PostPosted: Sun Nov 09, 2003 5:14 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

weatherman wrote:
the_beaver wrote:
One of the few bones of contention between my girlfriend and me is that she won't call me ,����.



Horror. That would be grounds for breaking up in my book. Really, I am not kidding.


But maybe the girl feels silly if she thinks she looks older than Beaver, which is a distinct possibility. Very Happy
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the_beaver



Joined: 15 Jan 2003

PostPosted: Sun Nov 09, 2003 5:19 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

katydid wrote:
But maybe the girl feels silly if she thinks she looks older than Beaver, which is a distinct possibility. Very Happy


I do look younger (you and I both, katydid, have babyface genes) but with her it's a cultural thing.
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Zed



Joined: 20 Jan 2003
Location: Shakedown Street

PostPosted: Sun Nov 09, 2003 5:20 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

weatherman wrote:
Zed wrote:
O-bah from a girlfriend is rather disturbing.


Dude, this is one of the greatest things about Korea. If a woman starts calling you oppa, then she has accepted you into her life, as a friend, lover whatever the relationship is. Go with it.

The girls around Suwon station in the windows with the red lights call me o-bah.
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Zed



Joined: 20 Jan 2003
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PostPosted: Sun Nov 09, 2003 5:20 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

From down the street
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katydid



Joined: 02 Feb 2003
Location: Here kitty kitty kitty...

PostPosted: Sun Nov 09, 2003 5:27 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

the_beaver wrote:
katydid wrote:
But maybe the girl feels silly if she thinks she looks older than Beaver, which is a distinct possibility. Very Happy


I do look younger (you and I both, katydid, have babyface genes) but with her it's a cultural thing.


yeah, but you know, oppah = older brother. Weatherman is right...girls call all guys they are close to oppah...unless what you mean is she feels weird bestowing the term to a waygoogin?
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the_beaver



Joined: 15 Jan 2003

PostPosted: Sun Nov 09, 2003 5:30 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

katydid wrote:
unless what you mean is she feels weird bestowing the term to a waygoogin?


That's what I mean.
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katydid



Joined: 02 Feb 2003
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PostPosted: Sun Nov 09, 2003 5:32 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Well, that's just dumb. Sorry....
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weatherman



Joined: 14 Jan 2003
Location: Korea

PostPosted: Sun Nov 09, 2003 5:34 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

the_beaver wrote:
katydid wrote:
unless what you mean is she feels weird bestowing the term to a waygoogin?


That's what I mean.


Then what is her context for relating to you as 'the' boyfriend? Do you ever use Korean in conversation? Are you using Korean cultural norms when dating? I really wouldn't stand for this.
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