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endo · Joined: 14 Mar 2004 Location: Seoul...my home

One interesting thing I've noticed with the Korean women I've dated is that many of them either have little or no relations with their father, or that their father is deceased.

For several of my friends who've dated and married Korean women, they've experienced the same thing.

I don't know if this case is just limited to my own experiences, but I feel that there's a good chance that this happens with other guys too.

So are Korean women who have little or no relations with their father, more likely to date/marry foreign men? And if so what is the reason for this?

In addition, for the foreign females who date/marry Korean men, is there some similar example in regardes to the presence or absense of their parents?

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jkelly80 · Joined: 13 Jun 2007 Location: you boys like mexico?

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endo · Joined: 14 Mar 2004 Location: Seoul...my home

pkang0202 · Joined: 09 Mar 2007

Children with Single parents is sort of outcast. For instance, whenever Korean parents meet their son/daughter's boyfriend/girlfriend, the first question asked is "What do your parents do?"

A lot of Korean parents would reject a marriage between their son/daughter with someone who doesn't have both of their parents.

Even if that isn't that case, the perception is definitely there. Koreans know that Westerners don't place so much emphasis on family background. A Korean man/woman knows that when they date a westerner, they don't have to be self conscious about having 1 parent.

red_devil · Joined: 30 Jun 2008 Location: Korea

Guri Guy · Joined: 07 Sep 2003 Location: Bamboo Island

I have three Canadian/American friends that married South Korean women who had no father.
I always wondered the same thing too and it seems I have drawn the same conclusions.
I figured it was her being less desirable for marriage due to her only having one parent.

Countrygirl · Joined: 19 Nov 2007 Location: in the classroom

Yes, no father-in-law here. I also know other females who have married Korean who don't have a father-in-law.

I think of it like this...no father means more ability to choose who you really want for your partner. But in reality there is less choice in partners because there is less education, less money and less prestige on your side. Korean girls really do use a checklist when they date/marry and love isn't at the top of this list.

Probably Korean girls who have less than desirable backgrounds wouldn't even try to marry into a well-established family. Her whole marriage she would be made to feel not good enough, either by her in-laws or just by her own judgement. That's assuming she dates someone who is strong enough to stand up to his parents. It makes dating/marrying an waegukin seem easy by comparison.

pkang0202 · Joined: 09 Mar 2007

cdninkorea · Joined: 27 Jan 2006 Location: Seoul

endo · Joined: 14 Mar 2004 Location: Seoul...my home

Countrygirl · Joined: 19 Nov 2007 Location: in the classroom

bassexpander · Joined: 13 Sep 2007 Location: Someplace you'd rather be.

Korean women like the idea of marrying a foreigner and escaping this society. This becomes infinitely easier after a controlling father is out of the picture, for a number of reasons.

For one, the father will expect that the husband provide a house. A foreigner isn't going to have family backing here to dump 300,000,000 into a house.

Two, there is the plain old racism factor that needs no discussion. Many Korean guys don't like foreigner dating "their" women. A great many fathers like it even less.

Three, a foreigner will likely take the daughter back home to their own country. There goes any chance of getting much money from them when mommy/daddy are old (and believe me -- they will expect it). Of course, they won't get to see their daughter, either.

There are other reasons.... communication, etc.

I suggest you stop with the "they only date waygooks because they are vulnerable" theme, and suggest you start considering the possibility that foreigners are the forbidden fruit that becomes a lot easier to marry once a controlling parent is gone. Also consider the plain fact that a whole lot of Korean women don't like the restrictions placed on them by their own culture. Not many western males return home from the room salons and galbi restaurants at 2am stinking of soju and cheap perfume, claiming they were "working."

spliff · Joined: 19 Jan 2004 Location: Khon Kaen, Thailand

I wouldn't date let alone marry a girl whose father didn't approve of me. I once dated a girl in the 90's whose father would always take me out alone and we'd get hammered together. He said I was good cause I could out drink him. He said that if I had sex w/ his daughter I'd have to marry her. He would get drunk and say things like "I know you sex two-gay my daughter...when you marry her"? She was an alright girl, and we had sex many times, but hell, I was already married.

Faunaki · Joined: 15 Jun 2007

There's a thread about this exact topic from last year but I can't find it.

Anyway I'm married to a K guy and he has no father so yah I agree with what the OP is saying.