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[itaewonguy]

Is marriage a religious silly tradition passed down through history? Is marriage really necessary in a scientific world with reason?
In a non religious view or an atheists view, someone who thinks old traditions and religions are just stupid traditions and superstition why even get married?
Wouldn�t marriage just be a silly tradition for atheists?
And what about monogamy?
why does there have to be monogamy?
Again aren�t these rules past down with some kind of religion morality?
Monogamy, I shall not do this! I will be this! I shall do this blar blar�
And then it�s sworn on god!
I mean plenty of Christians divorce! Plenty of atheists get married!
We have swingers who are Christians; we have Muslims, who will stone you to death if you cheat on your husband,
If religion leaves earth, where does that leave marriage?

If marriage is an old religious purpose with morality then doesn�t it belong in the same group with Christians, Buddhists, and other silly group�s atheist find to be stupid?
we can procreate no problem; we don�t need to marry to raise kids.
Is marriage just as silly as believing in Santa Claus?

[M-su]

Satan Claus is Awesome and you know it!

Also, Santa is from Finland, not the north pole!

[JMO]

OK Im going to answer each and every one of these questions honestly and openly. Please, please do not ignore the answers and just restate your claims later.

[laogaiguk]

Marriage was around a lot longer than current religions. So were morals and democracy even. You Christians are always asking stupid rhetorical questions like this, but what society is now has nothing to do with Christianity, as Christianity in itself can be traced back to other ideas before it.

[the boy next door]

there's no comparison.

i thought i had found my soul mate with a variety of sexually attractive women before i fell in love with the girl that is now my wife.

those lustful flings were merely that. it transitorily came and went but the first time i set eyes on my wife, something beyond magical, something beyond celestial, beyond anything hedonically yielding, some inescapable sensation better than physical life itself and even transcending spiritual satisfaction gripped the sheer essence of my entire being; i just knew i had to marry this woman and spend the rest of my life with her. i just knew if we married, i would be able to make it through this silly world with her but if we didn't marry, i'd end up nothing and sadly perish alone.

that is the truth about marriage.

[Kuros]

[red_devil]

[Stormy]

I don't believe in marriage but I do believe in Santa Clause, especially at this time of year. He's making a list you know.

[Omkara]

I kind of like this clip; it's worth thinking about. It's a kick t'boot!

http://kr.youtube.com/watch?v=5ocbZhRQS9I

[D.D.]

[the_beaver]

I've been saying forever that marriage is a stupid and antiquated idea. The only good reasons I've seen for it have been stated by red_devil:

[Justin Hale]

Another reason for monogamous marriage which no-one has mentioned yet in their otherwise good replies is to try to guarantee a wife for every male. Polygamy would see a privileged few males eating up the supply of girls, meaning many guys, especially the poor, don't have a chance of getting laid.

Can totally see the logic of monogamous marriage. On balance, I prolly prefer a monogamous society. Polygamous societies - inevitably - are full of sex-starved, insanely angry men who think blowing themselves up in an Israeli orphanage will bring them - guess what - sex rewards in the afterlife. They need to get freakin' laid already!

[EzeWong]

This may sound "stupid" (especially coming from a guy)

But as a kid I used to pedestal marrige as the one turning point in one's life where they would be complete with 1 other special person.

I used to think that it would be some magical thing that could cross cosmos and move mountains. I used to watch a lot of disney type crap is probably where I got this idea.

Anyways, in a way I still think it's something special. That there is 1 person that will completely make another person "whole". And I used to think THAT'S what marrige should be about.

Although, nowadays... especially being in Korea I know reality is far from it. In fact marrige seems like some worthless term thrown around to mean 2 people that barely like each other getting together for rumbles in the hay. Especially in Korea, anyone will get married with just about anyTHING if "time runs out"...

In a way it's exactly the way you put it: "Marrige is like believing in Santa Claus".

When you're a kid you're taught that marrige is magical and special. When you grow up you see that it's really just a fat guy in a suit.

I'm still pretty broken up about the whole reality... There a support group for this kind of stuff?

[red_devil]

[IncognitoHFX]

I don't think monogamy is culturally relative as the first reply stated. Monogamy is a biological and evolutionary necessity; as is jealousy. People are meant to pair bond in order to ensure the survival of their offspring, thus the necessity of monogamy and the existence of jealousy. There are a lot of other reasons too, some of them are imprinted into our DNA and others are not.

It's funny how our own genetics are riddled with contradictions. A lot of men want to sleep with every attractive girl on the planet (to spread the seed), yet there is also a biological obligation to not do that; which is where our moral obligation derived from, which is the precursor to it being recorded in our religious documents.

I do believe in marriage and I do believe in love. Those things are not hallmark sentiments; nor are they spoken of a religious tradition. Marriage has mutual benefits for both partners if and only if it is a good marriage. I do think, however, that all marriages have a life cycle and it is only those "extra special" marriages that can last for entire lives.

I'd be extra careful dating a girl whose parents got divorced because she might not have the same faith in marriage as I do. I want to get married. F*ck, I sound like a K girl.