Korean Job Discussion Forums

[ronald_reagan]

I have not been a member of this board for very long, I have only posted a couple times. However, it seems that there is a large amount of negative things said about Korea.

[MrRogers]

Well yeah... there ARE a lot of negative things to address, acknowledge, work with, dealwith/live with - in K land

better for people to know beforehand - go somewhere else - or what they will encounter when arriving/living there

these threads are good for some awareness of the situations

[bogey666]

[Css]

Welcome to daves.

[maingman]

I have only posted a couple times


is a couple of times better englishee?

[michaelambling]

[Ya-ta Boy]

The constant stream of negativity from some posters is a form of self-pity. Remember the old adage: Misery loves company? This site is a good example of it. Unable to adjust to a new culture, many people insist on dwelling on their discomfort and broadcasting it, looking for reinforcement and validation.

By remaining at the level of whining they don't have to admit they have culture shock and do the work necessary to get over it.

We recently had a thread that illustrates just how pathetic it can get around here: My god! There's dirt on the carrots! Are these people barbarians? It was classic.

[jkelly80]

MAYBE:

Korea is a land of incompetent quack managers with cultural/social/sexual inferiority complexes, not to mention generalized emotional problems

AND

a certain amount of EFL'ers are over individualized weirdos with trouble adjusting in one of the most collectivist societies on earth.

It's not either/or.

[ciccone_youth]

Yes it's quite negative, but sometimes it feels good to vent. You have to take it with a grain of salt.

[wylies99]

[saram_]

[Pa Jan Jo A Hamnida]

Yup. When I worked in Busan & Daegu, Dave's would be the place to visit so that I could get a daily affirmation. It's not me but them!

Years later, I can look back and just chuckle at the misery both self induced and self proclaimed.

[sarbonn]

Sometimes, it's just a desire to feel that you're not alone going through some of the crap that you get put through here. If you happen to be the only foreigner in your general vicinity, you're going to have an even harder time finding someone to gripe to. There's a cathartic feeling one gets just from being able to share in common experiences.

My personal belief is that those who complaining about "whining" are essentially people who have no concept of ever dealing with adversity themselves because nothing has changed their world view. Oh, they think they have gone through it, but they rarely have. Things have generally worked out for them and they can't stand the sight of anyone else complaining about something because it doesn't personally affect them.

Yeah, there's a lot of complaining on Dave's, but just because a lot of people complain doesn't mean that there's not a rationality behind it. There is a lot of illogical behavior that happens in this country. It does. Sometimes, just pointing it out makes one feel better. Yet, there are those here who seem to blow a gasket any time ANYONE challenges their world view of "everything's perfect", which is exactly the same thing they complain about when they point out the whining.

When someone complains constantly and has been doing it for awhile, then it's probably time for that person to start thinking strongly about leaving. There's temporary misery, and then there's masochism. When it crosses over into the latter, it's either time to move on or learn to enjoy the pain.

[victorology]

[jkelly80]

I think saying "Korea is not perfect" is a bit of an ole. No country is perfect, some are better to work in than others.