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mayorgc
Joined: 19 Oct 2008
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Posted: Wed Jun 10, 2009 5:12 am Post subject: A question to the dudes who married Korean Women. |
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After the honeymoon, did you guys stop having sex?
I was reading another forum (not a korean forum) where men were talking about the lack of intimacy after the wedding, from kids and being tired and no time etc. But one guy said that his philippina wife wanted it all the time.
So is it a cultural thing? |
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DrOctagon

Joined: 11 Jun 2008 Location: Chicago
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Posted: Wed Jun 10, 2009 5:29 am Post subject: |
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I thought you were gonna say: "What were you thinking?" |
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the boy next door
Joined: 08 Jun 2008 Location: next door
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Posted: Wed Jun 10, 2009 5:31 am Post subject: |
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sex starts at home but doesn't stop there...  |
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excitinghead

Joined: 18 Jul 2005
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Posted: Wed Jun 10, 2009 5:43 am Post subject: |
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Please forgive the blatant plug for my blog, but I discuss an interview of someone who wrote a book about sexless Japanese marriages in the post below, and which is equally applicable to Korea:
http://thegrandnarrative.wordpress.com/2008/03/03/sex-marriage-and-the-modern-japanese-and-korean-woman/
In short, it is a cultural (and economic) thing, but by no means is it applicable to all Korean marriages.
(Edit: Oops, thought the OP was talking about Korean marriages specifically sorry)
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Bloopity Bloop

Joined: 26 Apr 2009 Location: Seoul yo
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Posted: Wed Jun 10, 2009 1:31 pm Post subject: |
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Awesome blog! |
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TheUrbanMyth
Joined: 28 Jan 2003 Location: Retired
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Posted: Wed Jun 10, 2009 6:14 pm Post subject: |
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However the conclusions are based on a lot of guesswork and statistically insignificant samples...in other words this article doesn't prove any of the points it set out make. |
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Sergio Stefanuto
Joined: 14 May 2009 Location: UK
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Posted: Wed Jun 10, 2009 8:56 pm Post subject: |
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DrOctagon wrote: |
I thought you were gonna say: "What were you thinking?" |
Me too.
There are three compelling reasons to not marry a Korean woman: (1) doing so, in all likelihood, will keep you in Korea peddling TEFL until you either die or get divorced, (2) she'll turn into an adjumma, and (3) guys who marry Korean girls have a higher than average tendancy to become braindead and frankly not particularly pleasant layabouts, possibly related to (1).
I know everyone's just gonna fall over agreeing on that, so come on, let the tributes pour in! |
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PaperTiger

Joined: 31 May 2005 Location: Ulaanbataar
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Posted: Wed Jun 10, 2009 10:23 pm Post subject: |
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Marrying Korean women doesn't kill your love life...marrying the wrong woman does. Having a child definitely limits your time to do anything other than take care of the baby, but if you love your baby, then it seems like a pretty fair trade-off. You just have to make time for yourselves when the baby is sleeping. There is no general rule for any kind of woman, believing that there is will only result in either limited possibilities or bad choices.
Also, bolt the door if your mother-in-law has a key.
As a post-script, the filipina that I dated was neverending fun, but then again I only dated one. |
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djsmnc

Joined: 20 Jan 2003 Location: Dave's ESL Cafe
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Posted: Thu Jun 11, 2009 7:49 am Post subject: |
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Sergio Stefanuto wrote: |
DrOctagon wrote: |
I thought you were gonna say: "What were you thinking?" |
Me too.
There are three compelling reasons to not marry a Korean woman: (1) doing so, in all likelihood, will keep you in Korea peddling TEFL until you either die or get divorced, (2) she'll turn into an adjumma, and (3) guys who marry Korean girls have a higher than average tendancy to become braindead and frankly not particularly pleasant layabouts, possibly related to (1).
I know everyone's just gonna fall over agreeing on that, so come on, let the tributes pour in! |
I think 1, 2, and 3 depend on the circumstances in which you get married and the initiative you take. If you are satisfied being a TEFL peddler, then more power to you. However, if you are not satisfied with that, you take a stand and say "Look, these are my career plans, how can we work this out?" I think jumping into marriage will be a much bigger issue than thinking it through and focusing on getting certifications/higher degrees and making long term plans (which, yes, can include the Korean wife visiting family in Korea once a year) |
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by2004
Joined: 20 Mar 2009 Location: Gyeongsan
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Posted: Fri Jun 12, 2009 12:22 am Post subject: |
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I married a Korean woman. Sexiest thing and she loves to dress up for me every time we do whoopie. For sure we do it less cause we have a kid and she's working too. She's not built like a Mack truck either so she gets tired easily after work and taking care of the kid. To those who say that Korean women are sexless after getting married I think it's wrong. If you're fit and reasonably good looking and know how to turn her on then she'll keep coming back for more. I get the feeling that some dudes just don't know how to push the right buttons. Two of my good buddies back home are married to wonderful women (caucasian) and they're the ones complaining about not getting it enough. Mind you they work hard and are equally tired. You either got it or you don't. |
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dragon777
Joined: 06 Dec 2007
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Posted: Fri Jun 12, 2009 12:49 am Post subject: |
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I was given this advice by an old bloke about marriage. It is not perfect advice(no advice is) but it helped me a lot. he told me that there are four basic things one should discuss with their potential partner BEFORE MARRIAGE!! (and I have added my own insight).
1. Sex(how many times, likes dislikes etc).
2. Money(who will control it, earn it, work, pay the bills etc.).
3. Children(how many? if any?education etc).
4. Bathroom habits(things that really shit you off about the other. At least try sort it out now. Cap off the toothpaste, spitting, swearing etc includes household duties, cooking who does them).
These have no cultrual boundaries and apply to caucasian or Asians.
Hope these help. Good luck. |
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