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mayorgc · Joined: 19 Oct 2008

After the honeymoon, did you guys stop having sex?

I was reading another forum (not a korean forum) where men were talking about the lack of intimacy after the wedding, from kids and being tired and no time etc. But one guy said that his philippina wife wanted it all the time.

So is it a cultural thing?

DrOctagon · Joined: 11 Jun 2008 Location: Chicago

I thought you were gonna say: "What were you thinking?"

the boy next door · Joined: 08 Jun 2008 Location: next door

sex starts at home but doesn't stop there... Wink

excitinghead · Joined: 18 Jul 2005

Please forgive the blatant plug for my blog, but I discuss an interview of someone who wrote a book about sexless Japanese marriages in the post below, and which is equally applicable to Korea:

http://thegrandnarrative.wordpress.com/2008/03/03/sex-marriage-and-the-modern-japanese-and-korean-woman/

In short, it is a cultural (and economic) thing, but by no means is it applicable to all Korean marriages.

(Edit: Oops, thought the OP was talking about Korean marriages specifically sorry)

Bloopity Bloop · Joined: 26 Apr 2009 Location: Seoul yo

TheUrbanMyth · Joined: 28 Jan 2003 Location: Retired

Sergio Stefanuto · Joined: 14 May 2009 Location: UK

PaperTiger · Joined: 31 May 2005 Location: Ulaanbataar

Marrying Korean women doesn't kill your love life...marrying the wrong woman does. Having a child definitely limits your time to do anything other than take care of the baby, but if you love your baby, then it seems like a pretty fair trade-off. You just have to make time for yourselves when the baby is sleeping. There is no general rule for any kind of woman, believing that there is will only result in either limited possibilities or bad choices.

Also, bolt the door if your mother-in-law has a key.

As a post-script, the filipina that I dated was neverending fun, but then again I only dated one.

djsmnc · Joined: 20 Jan 2003 Location: Dave's ESL Cafe

by2004 · Joined: 20 Mar 2009 Location: Gyeongsan

I married a Korean woman. Sexiest thing and she loves to dress up for me every time we do whoopie. For sure we do it less cause we have a kid and she's working too. She's not built like a Mack truck either so she gets tired easily after work and taking care of the kid. To those who say that Korean women are sexless after getting married I think it's wrong. If you're fit and reasonably good looking and know how to turn her on then she'll keep coming back for more. I get the feeling that some dudes just don't know how to push the right buttons. Two of my good buddies back home are married to wonderful women (caucasian) and they're the ones complaining about not getting it enough. Mind you they work hard and are equally tired. You either got it or you don't.

dragon777 · Joined: 06 Dec 2007

I was given this advice by an old bloke about marriage. It is not perfect advice(no advice is) but it helped me a lot. he told me that there are four basic things one should discuss with their potential partner BEFORE MARRIAGE!! (and I have added my own insight).

1. Sex(how many times, likes dislikes etc).
2. Money(who will control it, earn it, work, pay the bills etc.).
3. Children(how many? if any?education etc).
4. Bathroom habits(things that really shit you off about the other. At least try sort it out now. Cap off the toothpaste, spitting, swearing etc includes household duties, cooking who does them).

These have no cultrual boundaries and apply to caucasian or Asians.
Hope these help. Good luck.