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earthbound14 · Joined: 23 Jan 2007 Location: seoul

Get another girl, take the moment of freedom to do something no girlfriend would let you do, bury yourself in sport or art.

hellakitty · Joined: 15 Sep 2007 Location: Variable

Whether this a troll or not I feel compelled to reply. Over the past couple of years I have been struggling with a relationship that cannot be - the distance is too great and neither of us is sure enough of and/or willing to just give up everything and relocate. We are not together and I have even dated other people, but the simplest thing sends me back there.

Time is the only thing in my case that offers any relief. Once you have accepted and are willing to let go of the dream of the relationship, the best thing you can do is give yourself plenty of time and space. Even though we are across oceans I visited him recently (BIG mistake) and I am now feeling like I am not even able to date for the foreseeable future. Don't be friends until you feel like friends - this could be days, months, years.

Stay positive and fill your time with meaningful activities and physical activities as others have suggested. whether it be work, school, or some other goal. Best of luck, OP.