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Panda
Joined: 25 Oct 2008
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 Posted: Wed Nov 04, 2009 12:00 am Post subject: Sleeping with a cheater is the lowest of the low? |
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In i_teach_esl's post < should I break up w/my boyfriend>
Something I wrote got lots of responses, however it was not my orignal intention, which probably disturbed OP as well.
I felt really sorry. Hence, I started this new thread, if you want to leave your two dollars here, you are welcome. |
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Joe666
Joined: 19 Nov 2008
Location: Jesus it's hot down here!
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| Posted: Wed Nov 04, 2009 12:32 am Post subject: |
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I will write what I had previously written in the "should I break up with my boy friend" thread. You are the one of the scariest females on the planet!! I realize you are Asian and that probably plays a major role in you thought processes. I wish you the best in all your future endeavors.
Interesting title to this new thread. I was under the impression that "sleeping with a cheater" was a major Korean past time.
I have alway's tried to live by the motto: Do to others as you would have done to yourself. It usually works out OK. At least in the self-respect department of my soul. The rest is quite empty!! |
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Maserial
Joined: 31 Jul 2005
Location: The Web
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| Posted: Wed Nov 04, 2009 12:34 am Post subject: Re: Sleeping with a cheater is the lowest of the low? |
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| Panda wrote: |
| I felt really sorry. Hence, I started this new thread, if you want to leave your two dollars here, you are welcome. |
1) The post in question was totally rawsome! (Keep up the good work.)
2) Sleeping with a cheater hardly makes a person the worst of the worst. |
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UknowsI
Joined: 16 Apr 2009
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| Posted: Wed Nov 04, 2009 12:36 am Post subject: |
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I think the main responsibility not to cheat lies on the person in a relationship and there is no way that person can talk himself/herself out of that responsibility.
For the single person involved, the moral is a bit more complicated... If you have the "all is fair in love and war" mindset, then the person might just have done everything possible to be with the love of his/her life (although I guess this mindset might bring up other problems as well). But if you are friends with the person being cheated on, you have definitely betrayed the friendship.
I don't really have any answers to the original problem, but I can't see how it's worse than being the cheater. |
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Panda
Joined: 25 Oct 2008
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| Posted: Wed Nov 04, 2009 12:47 am Post subject: |
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| Joe666 wrote: |
I will write what I had previously written in the "should I break up with my boy friend" thread. You are the one of the scariest females on the planet!! I realize you are Asian and that probably plays a major role in you thought processes. I wish you the best in all your future endeavors.
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Joe666, Being Asian is not anything wrong, it only says, you and I are different, whoever you love, you go for it, please take back what you said, if you didn't, it's alright, I would just pull your leg and cry and swear god: I am not going to act like an Asian forever, please forgimme. 
| Joe666 wrote: |
Interesting title to this new thread. I was under the impression that "sleeping with a cheater" was a major Korean past time.
I have alway's tried to live by the motto: Do to others as you would have done to yourself. It usually works out OK. At least in the self-respect department of my soul. The rest is quite empty!! |
Thanks for your contribution
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Panda
Joined: 25 Oct 2008
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| Posted: Wed Nov 04, 2009 12:48 am Post subject: |
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| UknowsI wrote: |
I think the main responsibility not to cheat lies on the person in a relationship and there is no way that person can talk himself/herself out of that responsibility.
For the single person involved, the moral is a bit more complicated... If you have the "all is fair in love and war" mindset, then the person might just have done everything possible to be with the love of his/her life (although I guess this mindset might bring up other problems as well). But if you are friends with the person being cheated on, you have definitely betrayed the friendship.
I don't really have any answers to the original problem, but I can't see how it's worse than being the cheater. |
I very much agree with you ~! |
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Fox
Joined: 04 Mar 2009
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| Posted: Wed Nov 04, 2009 1:39 am Post subject: |
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| UknowsI wrote: |
| For the single person involved, the moral is a bit more complicated... If you have the "all is fair in love and war" mindset, then the person might just have done everything possible to be with the love of his/her life (although I guess this mindset might bring up other problems as well). But if you are friends with the person being cheated on, you have definitely betrayed the friendship. |
Well, it's definitely true than a friend doing this has betrayed you, I agree with that. But a stranger? They owe you nothing, and they may not even know you exist. Even if they do know you exist, I think assigning them ethical culpability is just a knee-jerk emotional reaction; it's not their responsibility to help you preserve your relationship.
That said, in my understanding sleeping with a married person can actually be classified as the crime of alienation of affections in certain places, so beware. |
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calicoe
Joined: 23 Dec 2008
Location: South Korea
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| Posted: Wed Nov 04, 2009 3:48 am Post subject: |
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No, but I think dancing around and shaking your ass in the middle of someone else's pain is the lowest of the low, especially to another woman who has done no harm.
There's my 10 cents. Maybe one of the guys will give you a couple of bucks. |
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sarahsiobhan
Joined: 24 May 2009
Location: Wherever I am , I am probably drinking tea.
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Agree with above. Your advice in the other thread made me nearly choke. I was surprised, because I usually agree with you......
I once slept with an ex-bf when I was passing through Toronto, where I used to live, and I am going to be completely honest and say that a major part of the reason I slept with him was because I really missed him and wanted to get back together.
A few weeks later, I got an angry email from his ex from BEFORE ME , ( I am talking YEARS, people) who had gone through all his emails and texts and found ours from the days before and after we were together, and she pretty much gave me sh!t. I had no idea they were together, and I was so ashamed I couldn't even bring myself to acknowledge her email...I just deleted it and promptly threw up.
I have not spoken to him since. I felt indescribably awful, both for her (betrayal) and for me, as I still really miss him, and he knew how I felt, and used me.
So, yeah...sleeping with a cheater? I wouldn't advise it, if you know he is a cheater. |
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yingwenlaoshi
Joined: 12 Feb 2007
Location: ... location, location!
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| Posted: Wed Nov 04, 2009 4:32 am Post subject: |
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**Not posted by me**
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