Korean Job Discussion Forums

[PeterDragon]

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[The Goalie]

If you were to apply this approach to living with some tribe in Africa you would be thought crazy. If a culture is sufficiently exotic it seems the oddities of that culture are proportionately respected. Why is it that so many people expect Koreans to be so tolerant? It's their culture and just because they want to learn what has become the international language they're expected to forfeit the right of their culture being respected. By marrying into a culture you take on the burden of acting in a manner acceptable to it.

[Privateer]

wtf? This has got to be a troll.

Oh, well, serious reply just on the off chance you might be for real:

"No, getting married did not ruin Korea for me, but then, even before getting married, I was prepared to make minimal effort to fit in by occasionally bowing, using two hands, using the odd Korean phrase, and sometimes giving gifts. Just about every other ex-pat I know or see also does this and does not see this as an issue to leave the country over.

I think there are plenty of good reasons to leave Korea once you're married and/or planning on raising a family, but those little things you mention aren't among them."

If you're trolling: haha, hope you get satisfaction out of all the responses.

[halfmanhalfbiscuit]

That was an interesting post. I think a major problem though is that you work with ModEdit. If you worked with more Koreans who'd lived or studied overseas it might be less burdensome on your wife.

As it is your wife shouldn't be giving people's complaints any validity. She should be telling them to shut their pieholes. Problem solved in that case.

[Brooks]

he is not a troll.
I have a Japanese wife so I can see what he means.
My wife got right-wing after marriage, after being liberal.

[I'm no Picasso]

I have no real right to comment here. I've only been in the ROK for a little over a year, and I'm not even in a relationship with a Korean, let alone married to one. That having been said, wouldn't it seem a little odd if a Korean who had been living in a Western country for three years greeted people in Korean and bowed? I assume a lot of what's going on goes beyond these surface things, but I think, with those things at least, your wife may have had honest intentions in suggesting you adjust them to fit in a little better.

[Old Gil]

I've lived here for a year and half and I don't like this country. Yet I still manage do bow, speak Korean and do the two hand thing, amazingly all without so much as a wife. It's just polite. Suck it up.

[PeterDragon]

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[Kurtz]

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So you had no idea what you were potentially getting yourself into when you married into this culture?

[PeterDragon]

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[Xuanzang]

[PeterDragon]

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[Rusty Shackleford]

You're obviously never going to please your Korean family. Just act in a way that you are comfortable with. When your family realises that trying to make you conform to their expectations isn't going to work, they will probably get bored and give up.