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bellum99 · Joined: 23 Jan 2003 Location: don't need to know

Sometimes I get so freaked out when I have to decide something. I mean I shake and worry and can't ever really make up my mind. It is like a disability or something. I worry about my future all the time. Does anyone else have this kind of problem?

kangnamdragon · Joined: 17 Jan 2003 Location: Kangnam, Seoul, Korea

sounds like an anxiety disorder...you can get help for that... You are not alone...many people have the same condition

just because · Joined: 01 Aug 2003 Location: Changwon - 4964

Well I'm not sure?????

Let me think for a minute????

Do i or not??? Very Happy

No seriously, i have a friend like you and he finds the best thing for him is just to talk it out with other people. i try to help him as much as I can but he seems to be going along alright now.

wylde · Joined: 14 Apr 2003

drink a bottle of vodka and do what comes natural

ulsanchris · Joined: 19 Jun 2003 Location: take a wild guess

flip a coin

kangnamdragon · Joined: 17 Jan 2003 Location: Kangnam, Seoul, Korea

I think the OP has a genuine problem and needs compassionate and helpful responses.

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Tiger Beer · Joined: 07 Feb 2003

The Great Wall of Whiner · Joined: 24 Jan 2003 Location: Middle Land

I would seek professional help.

the eye · Joined: 29 Jan 2004

i'm not trying to be funny, but....did you smoke loads of pot before coming to krapea??

mithridates · Posted: Fri Mar 05, 2004 7:22 am Post subject:

Ah, that problem's not too hard to cure. Here's what you do: find yourself a place where you can decide two things, one first, and one later. A fork in a road or something. Now imagine that you're trying to decide where to go. Left or right? First take one road, let's go left. You go left a ways, thinking all the while about the decision you made. Then go back to the fork in the road and this time decide to go right, all the while thinking about the decision made this time. Then go back to the fork in the road once again. Think about both decisions and realize that they were good decisions because you made them.

They are not good decisions because they are good decisions, they are made good by the fact that you made them. Think about that. And then think about how going either way would have been fine. You didn't make the decision to jump off the side of a hill, you made a reasonable decision to go down a path that you knew would be safe. That's a good decision because it's yours.

Try that a few more times, each time thinking about what makes a decision a decision, and the fact that everything you decide to do is reasonable to a certain extent, and is always in your own interests. If you realize that it will be much easier to make other decisions as well.