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jonpurdy
Joined: 08 Jan 2009
Location: Ulsan
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 Posted: Mon Nov 01, 2010 8:02 pm Post subject: |
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It's not about stroking your own ego, it's about instilling the idea that if they are going to have a system of implied respect based on age, it should apply to everyone regardless of their nationality.
At school sometimes kids forget to add -샘 or -선생님 to my name. But that's mostly because the older teachers just call me my name and students overhear that. So I let that slide.
With friends we sometimes use banmal or add the -요, depends on how much we've had to drink 
The only time I actually got annoyed was when I was with my gf a few months ago. We went up to pay at a restaurant and the owner (man, 40s) said to her 4만원입니다. So I handed him my card, he looked over and said 4만원이야. I didn't really realize this until a few seconds later when it was too late to call him out on it. At least be consistent: if you're old and going to use banmal, use it on everyone. |
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WadRUG'naDoo
Joined: 15 Jun 2010
Location: Shanghai
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| Posted: Mon Nov 01, 2010 9:12 pm Post subject: |
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That actually means why is it banmal?
근데 왜 반말 하시는거예요? This is why are you using banmal. You can also change 하시는거예요 to 쓰시는거예요 |
Isn't that future form? I could be wrong. |
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Slowmotion
Joined: 15 Aug 2009
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| Posted: Mon Nov 01, 2010 9:35 pm Post subject: |
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| WadRUG'naDoo wrote: |
| eunjeong wrote: |
That actually means why is it banmal?
근데 왜 반말 하시는거예요? This is why are you using banmal. You can also change 하시는거예요 to 쓰시는거예요 |
Isn't that future form? I could be wrong. |
No future is -(으)ㄹ거예요
This is -는 거예요. |
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Kaypea
Joined: 09 Oct 2008
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| Posted: Mon Nov 01, 2010 10:23 pm Post subject: |
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| My students are cute. They like to argue whether or not it's banmal to say "hi" to me instead of "hello". Personally, I think it's ok to say "hi" to everyone, but I know their Korean English teacher says "hi" is like banmal, so I'm not setting them straight... |
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Slowmotion
Joined: 15 Aug 2009
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| Posted: Mon Nov 01, 2010 11:00 pm Post subject: |
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| red_devil wrote: |
Just to be clear for some of the other people. These are the acceptable times to use "Banmal".
1. Very informal usually used between close friends of same age or younger than you.
2. To people younger than you (but never on first meeting)
3. To students in a lower class than you (like Seniors to Freshman)
4. To someone of a "lower" social class (rare to see in these modern times tho)
Of course the point is that if you break these 4 points you ARE being disrespectful. When in doubt always address using -yo form or most polite -da/ka form. The Korean in this case is full of BS. 99.5% of the Koreans you meet if you're speaking Korean to them they will use -yo form at least. Older Koreans will use -da/ka form. |
The rules are more complicated than that. It is also not always acceptable to use banmal to someone who is younger than you even if you have met many times. Also it can be ok to use banmal to someone who is younger than you the first time as well. Too many variables. |
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akcrono
Joined: 11 Mar 2010
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| Posted: Mon Nov 01, 2010 11:33 pm Post subject: |
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| Whether they use it or not shouldn't matter at all. |
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red_devil
Joined: 30 Jun 2008
Location: Korea
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| Posted: Mon Nov 01, 2010 11:46 pm Post subject: |
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| Slowmotion wrote: |
| red_devil wrote: |
Just to be clear for some of the other people. These are the acceptable times to use "Banmal".
1. Very informal usually used between close friends of same age or younger than you.
2. To people younger than you (but never on first meeting)
3. To students in a lower class than you (like Seniors to Freshman)
4. To someone of a "lower" social class (rare to see in these modern times tho)
Of course the point is that if you break these 4 points you ARE being disrespectful. When in doubt always address using -yo form or most polite -da/ka form. The Korean in this case is full of BS. 99.5% of the Koreans you meet if you're speaking Korean to them they will use -yo form at least. Older Koreans will use -da/ka form. |
The rules are more complicated than that. It is also not always acceptable to use banmal to someone who is younger than you even if you have met many times. Also it can be ok to use banmal to someone who is younger than you the first time as well. Too many variables. |
Not much more complicated. And the only time you can use banmal to someone when you first meet is if you're talking to kids. If i meet a guy who's much older than me but we're both adults he shouldn't use banmal to me. (although you'll find that elderly people use banmal to everyone, they're old, probably gonna die soon so they don't care) But if meet a 5yr old kid or middle schooler i can use banmal no worries. You're right it's not ALWAYS acceptable to use banmal to someone younger even if you've met a lot of times, but if you do it's not going to be a big issue. The way i see it, if a girl younger than me starts referring to me as "oppa", or the guy starts referring to me as "hyung" than it's ok to use banmal. |
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Slowmotion
Joined: 15 Aug 2009
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| Posted: Tue Nov 02, 2010 12:13 am Post subject: |
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| red_devil wrote: |
| Slowmotion wrote: |
| red_devil wrote: |
Just to be clear for some of the other people. These are the acceptable times to use "Banmal".
1. Very informal usually used between close friends of same age or younger than you.
2. To people younger than you (but never on first meeting)
3. To students in a lower class than you (like Seniors to Freshman)
4. To someone of a "lower" social class (rare to see in these modern times tho)
Of course the point is that if you break these 4 points you ARE being disrespectful. When in doubt always address using -yo form or most polite -da/ka form. The Korean in this case is full of BS. 99.5% of the Koreans you meet if you're speaking Korean to them they will use -yo form at least. Older Koreans will use -da/ka form. |
The rules are more complicated than that. It is also not always acceptable to use banmal to someone who is younger than you even if you have met many times. Also it can be ok to use banmal to someone who is younger than you the first time as well. Too many variables. |
Not much more complicated. And the only time you can use banmal to someone when you first meet is if you're talking to kids. If i meet a guy who's much older than me but we're both adults he shouldn't use banmal to me. (although you'll find that elderly people use banmal to everyone, they're old, probably gonna die soon so they don't care) But if meet a 5yr old kid or middle schooler i can use banmal no worries. You're right it's not ALWAYS acceptable to use banmal to someone younger even if you've met a lot of times, but if you do it's not going to be a big issue. The way i see it, if a girl younger than me starts referring to me as "oppa", or the guy starts referring to me as "hyung" than it's ok to use banmal. |
Let me throw out some examples:
-One of my friend's uncle's is in his mid 30's. When I first met him, he used banmal to me. No discomfort for me.
-My Korean uncle's friends, who are in their 40's (which means they are not gonna die soon) use banmal to me. It would be odd if they used 요 to me.
-I'm 27 and if I meet someone who is around 21 or so, it's not uncommon for me to use banmal to them. Of course I can always be more polite and not do it, but it doesn't make me rude as they are quite younger than me. It doesn't require a 5 year old. Hell why would I be using banmal to a teenager or elementary school student?
-Teachers teach mostly using 존댓말. Even though the teacher is older, higher status, and met them several times. Teacher's when scolding use banmal and also when directly addressing a student. But sometimes they use 요 to be more polite to the student.
-Kids use banmal to their parents. Girls often use banmal to both parents, while guys usually use it towards their mother and 존댓말 to their father. There are some families who are quite strict though and make their kids always use 존댓말 (think rich traditional families).
-Some salesman use banmal to seem more "friendly." This can happen at Yongsan.
-When someone older than me is working somewhere and I am the customer, they use 존댓말. I guess you could say the customer temporarily has a higher status than the worker.
-Some teacher's and wokers who are the same age and have even been at the same school for years still still use 존댓말. Some teachers who are 20 years older than the other teachers still use 존댓말 to them, while some use banmal.
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And the only time you can use banmal to someone when you first meet is if you're talking to kids. |
Definitely false. |
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take a rest
Joined: 15 Sep 2010
Location: self-banned
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| Posted: Tue Nov 02, 2010 12:57 am Post subject: |
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| akcrono wrote: |
| Whether they use it or not shouldn't matter at all. |
I disagree.
In English, kids using casual language with adults doesn't imply disrespect... I'm not an expert, but as far as I can tell, using banmal here on | |
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