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isitts
Joined: 25 Dec 2008
Location: Korea
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 Posted: Sun Jan 09, 2011 5:25 am Post subject: Re: What were the signs your marriage was over? |
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| fromtheuk wrote: |
On that 'uplifting' note, what made you realize it was time for a divorce? |
It's over as soon as you have an expectation of what marriage is. If you say things like, "I want a wife/husband who (blah blah blah)", then it's not going to last because you're taking some idea you imagined in your head and trying to superimpose it on a real person.
It also helps to realize that you are also a real person and probably don't fit the mold of someone else's ideal husband/wife. |
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loveless
Joined: 27 Jul 2010
Location: love is a danger of a different kind...
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| Posted: Sun Jan 09, 2011 5:35 am Post subject: |
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you know your marriage is over when...oh my God, i've been avoiding this thread coz it hurts...it hurts.  i've just recently divorced and it hurts because i want to get back together but she thinks i'm dirt.
well, i did things that were slightly unethical to me but to her were, well... i'll never go to Thailand/Phillipines/Cambodia again alone without my ball n' chain!
please, not, when is the marriage over, but, how can you get your spouse to love you again when you've been a total loveless jerk? please, change the title of this thread coz i've posted on it! |
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NYC_Gal 2.0
Joined: 10 Dec 2010
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| Posted: Sun Jan 09, 2011 5:38 am Post subject: |
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isitts
Joined: 25 Dec 2008
Location: Korea
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| Posted: Sun Jan 09, 2011 5:45 am Post subject: |
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| loveless wrote: |
you know your marriage is over when...oh my God, i've been avoiding this thread coz it hurts...it hurts. i've just recently divorced and it hurts because i want to get back together but she thinks i'm dirt.
well, i did things that were slightly unethical to me but to her were, well... i'll never go to Thailand/Phillipines/Cambodia again alone without my ball n' chain!
please, not, when is the marriage over, but, how can you get your spouse to love you again when you've been a total loveless jerk? please, change the title of this thread coz i've posted on it! |
%#@!, loveless! I just got through bringing us back on topic! Now you want to change the thread title?
The answer to your question is simple, but hard to do: forgive yourself. |
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Globutron
Joined: 13 Feb 2010
Location: England/Anyang
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| Posted: Sun Jan 09, 2011 5:48 am Post subject: |
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| NYC_Gal 2.0 wrote: |
| He managed to spend hundreds of thousands on Darwin knows what. A bastard kid, hookers, gambling, I don't know. This was future house money. I don't care about the money, though. I care about the lying. I'd even offered to let him take a year off when work was stressful, and that I'd support him. It's his loss. |
H of T of won or dollars?
Would you be content with him if he openly told you about his hookers and toad racing, then? |
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isitts
Joined: 25 Dec 2008
Location: Korea
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| Posted: Sun Jan 09, 2011 5:57 am Post subject: |
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| NYC_Gal 2.0 wrote: |
| He managed to spend hundreds of thousands on Darwin knows what. A bastard kid, hookers, gambling, I don't know. This was future house money. I don't care about the money, though. I care about the lying. I'd even offered to let him take a year off when work was stressful, and that I'd support him. It's his loss. |
Ka-boom! Number one reason takes it again. Money.
Yeah that's a doozie, there. He obviously wasn't thinking about your future.
...Although...was that all his money or was some/most/all of it yours? I would still say expectation was the hidden culprit.
Anyway, that was a no brainer decision for you  That's a the nice kind of break that you don't feel bad about. |
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loveless
Joined: 27 Jul 2010
Location: love is a danger of a different kind...
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| Posted: Sun Jan 09, 2011 6:56 am Post subject: |
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| loveless wrote: |
you know your marriage is over when...oh my God, i've been avoiding this thread coz it hurts...it hurts. i've just recently divorced and it hurts because i want to get back together but she thinks i'm dirt.
well, i did things that were slightly unethical to me but to her were, well... i'll never go to Thailand/Phillipines/Cambodia again alone without my ball n' chain!
please, not, when is the marriage over, but, how can you get your spouse to love you again when you've been a total loveless jerk? please, change the title of this thread coz i've posted on it! |
%#@!, loveless! I just got through bringing us back on topic! Now you want to change the thread title?
The answer to your question is simple, but hard to do: forgive yourself. |
i'm so loveless and i just dont know what to do!
i'm still in love with her! 
even after all the pain and struggle...so, in love with her...
there's a bra that she left behind with the scent of her usual perfume that i can't stop smelling every time i think of her at night... gee, am i crazy? love-crazy or lovedrunk..or just insane? oh my, gee...am i to blame?
i call and just wait and listen if her angelic voice will greet me, 'ang-yong'!
...but it never does...
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NYC_Gal 2.0
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