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SHGator428



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PostPosted: Sun Feb 15, 2015 8:34 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Stan Rogers wrote:
I laugh at the cheapo westerners on this site. Getting married? Yea just a piece of paper. No big deal. Why waste so much money? LOL

These attitudes really show why they are single, divorced or soon to be divorced.


I laugh at you for thinking it is anything more than that.
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slothrop



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PostPosted: Sun Feb 15, 2015 8:40 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

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Qonny



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PostPosted: Sun Feb 15, 2015 8:44 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

slothrop wrote:
Qonny wrote:
But the factory system here, coupled with the piles of cash you get as wedding gifts, make it a pretty economical undertaking.

But like someone said above, for a lot of men there is also the prospect of apartment, car, baby, furnishings etc. to contend with.


I never could understand this line of thinking. Even if your inlaws don't keep most of the wedding gift money, it's not yours free and clear. The reason they keep an account ledger of who gave how much isn't so you can send thank you notes. You are expected to give that much back to those people whenever they get married, or have a baby, or whatever.


Yes, to an extent. But we won't be here those weddings. So, haha, sucks to be you.
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PostPosted: Sun Feb 15, 2015 8:47 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

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northway



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PostPosted: Sun Feb 15, 2015 9:15 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

radcon wrote:
Cheapo Westerners you say? A Korean wedding hall wedding costs a whole lot less than a decent wedding in the west. A western bride would be embarrassed to serve the slop they have at wedding hall buffets. Korean weddings don't have bands or Djs, rehearsal dinners or open bars.


This. They're also way less interesting than a lot of budget weddings in the West.
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Savant



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PostPosted: Sun Feb 15, 2015 10:06 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

slothrop wrote:
Qonny wrote:
But the factory system here, coupled with the piles of cash you get as wedding gifts, make it a pretty economical undertaking.

But like someone said above, for a lot of men there is also the prospect of apartment, car, baby, furnishings etc. to contend with.


I never could understand this line of thinking. Even if your inlaws don't keep most of the wedding gift money, it's not yours free and clear. The reason they keep an account ledger of who gave how much isn't so you can send thank you notes. You are expected to give that much back to those people whenever they get married, or have a baby, or whatever.


I was at my Korean in-laws' home after our wedding helping them count the cash they got from the wedding envelopes.

Our wedding venue had a maximum guest limit of 120 people, which was perfect for my wife and I as we didn't want huge numbers of people turning up that we did not know.

Fast forward to our wedding day and 200+ people showed up and all of them couldn't be sat down and fed. Not to mention our wedding cake quickly disappeared before we got to sample any ourselves.

My in-laws (due to inviting more people than we asked them to) made more than 10 million won profit on our wedding. They covered the food cost but we spent our own money on everything else: cake, photographer, florist etc.

I think they might have given us back 1 million won.
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Stan Rogers



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PostPosted: Mon Feb 16, 2015 8:19 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

SHGator428 wrote:
Stan Rogers wrote:
I laugh at the cheapo westerners on this site. Getting married? Yea just a piece of paper. No big deal. Why waste so much money? LOL

These attitudes really show why they are single, divorced or soon to be divorced.


I laugh at you for thinking it is anything more than that.


If we are all laughing, that's good.
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Stan Rogers



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PostPosted: Mon Feb 16, 2015 8:26 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

radcon wrote:
Cheapo Westerners you say? A Korean wedding hall wedding costs a whole lot less than a decent wedding in the west. A western bride would be embarrassed to serve the slop they have at wedding hall buffets. Korean weddings don't have bands or Djs, rehearsal dinners or open bars.


There are some really nice wedding halls. My experiences at them recently has been quite good. I'd agree with you 15 years ago but not now.
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Stan Rogers



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PostPosted: Mon Feb 16, 2015 8:27 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

slothrop wrote:
Stan Rogers wrote:
slothrop wrote:
Stan Rogers wrote:
I laugh at the cheapo westerners on this site. Getting married? Yea just a piece of paper. No big deal. Why waste so much money? LOL

These attitudes really show why they are single, divorced or soon to be divorced.


Are you going to cash out your retirement fund to buy the jewelry set w/rolex watches for your future inlaws?LOL


So what's your category? Can't get a girlfriend? Can't keep a girlfriend? Gay? Divorced or soon to be divorced?


Hapily married for 10 years.
And I am a cheap bastard!


Nice.
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Stan Rogers



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PostPosted: Mon Feb 16, 2015 8:30 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

jazzmaster wrote:
Stan Rogers wrote:
slothrop wrote:
Stan Rogers wrote:
I laugh at the cheapo westerners on this site. Getting married? Yea just a piece of paper. No big deal. Why waste so much money? LOL

These attitudes really show why they are single, divorced or soon to be divorced.


Are you going to cash out your retirement fund to buy the jewelry set w/rolex watches for your future inlaws?LOL


So what's your category? Can't get a girlfriend? Can't keep a girlfriend? Gay? Divorced or soon to be divorced?


Nice little slice of homophobia there. Stick gay in with other insults and hope no-one calls you on it.


Ok, so I can put you in the gay category.
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radcon



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PostPosted: Tue Feb 17, 2015 12:02 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Stan Rogers wrote:
radcon wrote:
Cheapo Westerners you say? A Korean wedding hall wedding costs a whole lot less than a decent wedding in the west. A western bride would be embarrassed to serve the slop they have at wedding hall buffets. Korean weddings don't have bands or Djs, rehearsal dinners or open bars.


There are some really nice wedding halls. My experiences at them recently has been quite good. I'd agree with you 15 years ago but not now.


I'm intrigued. What makes these new wedding halls so nice? Do they provide a superior wedding experience?
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Stan Rogers



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PostPosted: Tue Feb 17, 2015 5:17 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

radcon wrote:
Stan Rogers wrote:
radcon wrote:
Cheapo Westerners you say? A Korean wedding hall wedding costs a whole lot less than a decent wedding in the west. A western bride would be embarrassed to serve the slop they have at wedding hall buffets. Korean weddings don't have bands or Djs, rehearsal dinners or open bars.


There are some really nice wedding halls. My experiences at them recently has been quite good. I'd agree with you 15 years ago but not now.


I'm intrigued. What makes these new wedding halls so nice? Do they provide a superior wedding experience?


Much nicer than they used to be.
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northway



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PostPosted: Tue Feb 17, 2015 7:38 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Stan Rogers wrote:
radcon wrote:
Stan Rogers wrote:
radcon wrote:
Cheapo Westerners you say? A Korean wedding hall wedding costs a whole lot less than a decent wedding in the west. A western bride would be embarrassed to serve the slop they have at wedding hall buffets. Korean weddings don't have bands or Djs, rehearsal dinners or open bars.


There are some really nice wedding halls. My experiences at them recently has been quite good. I'd agree with you 15 years ago but not now.


I'm intrigued. What makes these new wedding halls so nice? Do they provide a superior wedding experience?


Much nicer than they used to be.


Sure, but it doesn't change the fact that Korean weddings are depressing affairs for everyone involved except for the folks getting paid.
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radcon



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PostPosted: Tue Feb 17, 2015 3:37 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Stan Rogers wrote:
radcon wrote:
Stan Rogers wrote:
radcon wrote:
Cheapo Westerners you say? A Korean wedding hall wedding costs a whole lot less than a decent wedding in the west. A western bride would be embarrassed to serve the slop they have at wedding hall buffets. Korean weddings don't have bands or Djs, rehearsal dinners or open bars.


There are some really nice wedding halls. My experiences at them recently has been quite good. I'd agree with you 15 years ago but not now.


I'm intrigued. What makes these new wedding halls so nice? Do they provide a superior wedding experience?


Much nicer than they used to be.


Open bars with a proper bartender mixing drinks or do they still just plop down bottles of soju on the table? Live bands or Djs? Are the guests still just supposed to eat for 30 minutes and go home?
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CentralCali



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PostPosted: Tue Feb 17, 2015 4:56 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

radcon wrote:
Open bars with a proper bartender mixing drinks or do they still just plop down bottles of soju on the table? Live bands or Djs? Are the guests still just supposed to eat for 30 minutes and go home?


Well, they need to do something to make it different from a Korean funeral.
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