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Harin



Joined: 03 May 2004
Location: Garden of Eden

PostPosted: Tue May 25, 2004 8:17 am    Post subject: big dilemma Reply with quote

I hope someone can help me with my dilemma. Ok, I currently live in a homogenous whitebread community. It is not one of those boondocks, but I do miss city since I was born and bred in the big city, da Seoul.

I recently got a job offer and is seriously considering to move to a bigger city. However, I am realizing everyday how expensive it is to buy a house up there. My new job will not pay more, but the same as my current job. Sucks. Right now, I have a killer house and beautiful garden. My mortgate rate is only 4.70%. I have amazing friends down here and know my way around this town. Hmmm, writing all this shit down is already helping me, I guess. It is obvious that I am comfortable here and scared shitless of making a transition to a bigger city. All these years, I thought I was adventurous. Dang.

I was planning on paying off my current house; well almost by 2006 and then moving to the city. That way, I thought I'd have more money for downpayment. I will be also vested, so I can take all of my retirement money with me, not just the half. If I move there right now, I could probably buy something decent, but most of my paycheck will go to pay the mortgate. It means...no monthly facial, no fancy organic produce, fewer trips abroad, etc. Heck, I may even have to go back to Winco and start using coupons...argh....

The thing is though....I hate my current job. I hate it. I hate it. I can not stand my boss and am tired of doing same shit every fucking day. God, I am so down right now.
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Crois



Joined: 18 Aug 2003
Location: You could be next so watch out.

PostPosted: Tue May 25, 2004 8:54 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I think it's something you have to decide for yourself.
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phaedrus



Joined: 13 Nov 2003
Location: I'm comin' to get ya.

PostPosted: Tue May 25, 2004 11:32 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

What about a different job in your current location?

Sounds like it will be better for you to enjoy the inexpensive lifestyle and get your city from vacations to Seoul.

Bad work really blows.
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captain kirk



Joined: 29 Jan 2003

PostPosted: Wed May 26, 2004 3:18 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

More details. Why don't you like the boss, and why don't you like your job? For a foreigner the usual problem with the boss is that 'the boss is the boss' in Korea and carries on like they're some kind of dictator/king/queen/princess, whatever. So their directives come across as accusations because they've hung back, not doing or saying anything much because they are the boss and you are 'just doing your job'. That is the job of the boss is to rule with the worker's to serve. Not much communicating going on, and especially not as 'equals' and so 'friendly'. But on the surface, where everything 'floats' in Korea everything's just fine and dandy so I would say what's wrong with your job. It's the same thing everyday. So what?! Isn't that nice, as in 'stability'. You have a fine time after work; at least you have a job. I say this because, in my experience, paying too much attention to the boss (because 'you hate the boss') and the job ('oh, it's the same everyday!') means stop fixating on the boss and get more of a life going after work. I know you're not a foreigner but I've seen lots of foreigners get their 'nose up' because the Korean boss carries on like they're the lord above and won't represent them in their squirming about this and that. Just accept seems to be the Korean way. So I've, personally, become more 'bovine' in accepting what I've got and why blow it? Sure it's bla bla bad and bla bla boring but hey, it's a job. The rest is up to me.
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Harin



Joined: 03 May 2004
Location: Garden of Eden

PostPosted: Wed May 26, 2004 6:36 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Thanks guys, I am in the states right now; I got out of the teaching gig a long time ago. I decied to move to the bigger city last night. Can't wait to give one month's notice today. Yes!
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phaedrus



Joined: 13 Nov 2003
Location: I'm comin' to get ya.

PostPosted: Wed May 26, 2004 2:32 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Harin wrote:
Thanks guys, I am in the states right now; I got out of the teaching gig a long time ago. I decied to move to the bigger city last night. Can't wait to give one month's notice today. Yes!


I hope it works out fine. Like teachers in Korea, for someone who has the guts and insight to move halfway around the world and have it work out, I'm sure your new move was well considered and will work out.
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kiwiboy_nz_99



Joined: 05 Jul 2003
Location: ...Enlightenment...

PostPosted: Wed May 26, 2004 10:13 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Wanting to be part of a group that you don't belong to reeks of loneliness, desperation, and attention seeking. I have a solution to your problem, stop posting here and deal with your own life ...
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nev



Joined: 04 Jan 2004
Location: ch7t

PostPosted: Wed May 26, 2004 10:27 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Kiwiboy - constructive, incisive and helpful as ever. This board would be empty without him.
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Grotto



Joined: 21 Mar 2004

PostPosted: Mon May 31, 2004 4:49 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

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Wanting to be part of a group that you don't belong to reeks of loneliness, desperation, and attention seeking. I have a solution to your problem, stop posting here and deal with your own life ...


Something like you wanting to be part of the English teachers crowd Kiwiboy? Laughing

Why stab at the guy when all he wants to do is share a bit, get some feedback and figure out what is best. Sometimes you have to talk about it to figure it out. Go easy!
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Corporal



Joined: 25 Jan 2003

PostPosted: Mon May 31, 2004 3:57 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Now Harin's a guy? Laughing
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Blind Willie



Joined: 05 May 2004

PostPosted: Mon May 31, 2004 4:01 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

There's only one person in the entire world who likes their job:

The guy who tweaks J'Lo's nipples before she shoots a music video.

The rest of us put up with ours, you can too.
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Harin



Joined: 03 May 2004
Location: Garden of Eden

PostPosted: Mon May 31, 2004 6:26 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Grotto wrote:
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Wanting to be part of a group that you don't belong to reeks of loneliness, desperation, and attention seeking. I have a solution to your problem, stop posting here and deal with your own life ...


Something like you wanting to be part of the English teachers crowd Kiwiboy? Laughing

Why stab at the guy when all he wants to do is share a bit, get some feedback and figure out what is best. Sometimes you have to talk about it to figure it out. Go easy!


So.....kiwi boy is not a teacher...then what is he??? Confused

I am going to have an open house next Sat, but two couples already came by and looked at the house. I am telling you guys; LOCATION, LOCATION, LOCATION. You may have to pay a little extra first, but it's totally worth it. I think I will make a large profit. Yay, but then again, houses are so friggin expensive in Seattle, so we'll see.

Again, thanks for your kind words. Wink
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