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katydid
Joined: 02 Feb 2003
Location: Here kitty kitty kitty...
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I have to say that this is not just limited to when a white guy gets in a first date with a Korean girl. I remember my first year here one of my adult students really developed this crush on this other adult student of mine, and he really wanted to ask her out. She worked at McDonald's. My student (who was also becoming a very good friend of mine) went there to have lunch, and for him to finally get off his butt, grow a spine and ask her out.  She came by our table and joked that we were on a date...he was temporarily mortified (I didn't take that personally) and then went up to ask her out.
She accepted and then she showed up for the date that weekend with another girlfriend. He was OK with it the first time...well, a little perturbed but said nothing...until the second time she accepted a "date" and showed up with a friend.
Unfortunately, but predictably, their relationship went nowhere. |
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matthewwoodford
Joined: 01 Oct 2003
Location: Location, location, location.
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| Posted: Thu Oct 14, 2004 7:38 am Post subject: |
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i think that jumping into bed with someone that you just met to satisfy an itch in your pants is nasty.
that's how STDs get spread.
you might say that judging a person based on how many times they had sex is shallow, but it's been an ongoing thing to judge women that way.
a guy can brag about his sexual conquests, but for a girl to do the same she's seen as a *beep*.
i cut through the crap and call them both sluts. |
I don't like people who use the word '*beep*' or 'skank' or 'ho'. You're just making other people feel bad about sex. Hurting someone through dishonesty or stupidity is one thing but there's nothing wrong with sex. Is there some reason you think it's 'nasty' cos if that's just how you personally feel about it then we can agree to disagree - and too bad for you imho. |
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bucheon bum
Joined: 16 Jan 2003
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| Posted: Thu Oct 14, 2004 8:15 am Post subject: |
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| crazylemongirl wrote: |
| little mixed girl wrote: |
i think that jumping into bed with someone that you just met to satisfy an itch in your pants is nasty.
that's how STDs get spread. |
Having sex with multiple partners doesn't spread most STDs. Having unsafe sex with even one partner (like your husband on your wedding night) helps spread STDs.
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Yeah, I have a friend who got herpes the first time she had sex: ouch. And I might add she waited a couple months, making sure she trusted the guy, blah blah blah, before she slept with him. He claims he never knew he had it. Could be true since not everyone shows symptoms of herpes. |
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kiwiboy_nz_99
Joined: 05 Jul 2003
Location: ...Enlightenment...
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| Posted: Thu Oct 14, 2004 9:36 am Post subject: |
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but, wow. thanks for letting me know that only people who have sex can judge what's skanky or not! please book a spot on the next episode of 'maury' so you can tell those 15 yr old girls who love to brag about how many guys that they've slept with how cool and mature they are!
cuz i'm sure they know a lot more about sex than me! i mean, from them i hear such cool quotes as "i just open my legs and let the *beep* fall in".
those are REAL women for you! they might have some stds, but i'm sure you won't care. just hit the bong before you have sex with the girl that gives sex away for a bag of potato chips!
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It's one thing to be ignorant, but quite another to joyfully proclaim your ignorance from the highest mountain top as you so often do on here.
Feel free to hold your ultra conservative veiws on sex. I don't think those views are healthy, but I respect your right to hold them. But the reason you draw my scorn was because you characterised people who have a more positive veiw of sex as skanks, and sex it's self as nasty. I think you'd be more comfortabe in Islamic society. And I truly feel sorry for your future husband on his wedding night.
Further, and this is where I generously educate you despite your poor attititude, having sex does not cause the transmission of std's. There is simply no causal relationship there. Having sex with out condoms indeed can cause the transmission of std's. I notice a lot of ultra conservatives who are trying to push an abstinance agenda often use phrases something like "Sex causes std's" or something similar. That is grossly misleading and just the kind of thing that ignorant reactionaries spout in order to control people's behaviour through fear. Thankfully, most people are way too intelligent to fall for it and prefer to use thier brain and assess the facts, and make an informed decision for themselves. |
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bucheon bum
Joined: 16 Jan 2003
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| Posted: Thu Oct 14, 2004 9:55 am Post subject: |
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| kiwiboy_nz_99 wrote: |
| I think you'd be more comfortabe in Islamic society. |
That is true. Alternatives for non-muslims include becoming a nun, hanging out with the "ring of abstinence" crew, being buds with John Ashcroft, etc. |
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kiwiboy_nz_99
Joined: 05 Jul 2003
Location: ...Enlightenment...
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| Posted: Thu Oct 14, 2004 10:15 am Post subject: |
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Indeed Mr Bum. 
Try this analogy. "If you spend all day in the sun you'll get sunburn". Sounds reasonable, but it's not true. If you wear suntan lotion, a hat, and spend the day under a sun umbrella it's highly unlikely you'll get sunburn. Just because it's possible to get sunburn, does that mean we ban beaches?
Or just because cars can kill, do we ban cars? No, rather we learn to wear seatbelts and to drive safely. The same should apply to sex. |
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little mixed girl
Joined: 11 Jun 2003
Location: shin hyesung's bed~
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| Posted: Thu Oct 14, 2004 2:34 pm Post subject: |
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i don't really have time to respond to all the posts individually cuz i have a bus to catch.
but, yes, i do think it's nasty to just hop in the bed with someone.
you guys will get all icky if u think that the unused side dishes in a korean place get reused, but have no problem hoping in the bed with someone you've never met?
those girls i talked about are not people that i made up.
they enjoy sex just as much as you all seem to, so by the logic i see here, it's perfectly fine for them to have free sex.
i never said that sex causes stds. and a condom cannot protect you from all stds.
of course there's a chance that i could get aids from contaminated blood at a hospital, but there's an easier chance of me getting it by having casual sex. and the hospital won't leave me pregnant, because as you obviously know "it only takes one time".
if u are in a commited relationship with someone, then fine. have your sex. but i stand by what i said, hoping into bed with someone you don't know just to get your jollies off is nasty.
i know girls who are around my age (older or younger by no more than 2 yrs) who have gotten into bad situations through sex. none of that would have happened if people could just hold off.
i know people older than me who have gotten into bad situations because they had casual sex.
like i said. if you have someone that you've been with for a while and you want to have sex, fine. but 'hooking up/one night stands', etc, that's just nasty. it's all fun until you wake up in the morning with you *beep* shrivled off, or you get a call from the girl you were with saying "the condom broke, you're my baby's daddy and i want child support". |
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crazylemongirl
Joined: 23 Mar 2003
Location: almost there...
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| Posted: Thu Oct 14, 2004 5:13 pm Post subject: |
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| little mixed girl wrote: |
i don't really have time to respond to all the posts individually cuz i have a bus to catch.
but, yes, i do think it's nasty to just hop in the bed with someone.
you guys will get all icky if u think that the unused side dishes in a korean place get reused, but have no problem hoping in the bed with someone you've never met? |
comparing food hygeine with sex? that's a bit of a leap. apples and oranges as far as I'm concerned.
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those girls i talked about are not people that i made up.
they enjoy sex just as much as you all seem to, so by the logic i see here, it's perfectly fine for them to have free sex. |
No problem with me. As far as I'm concerned you're free to bang or not bang whoever you want as along as it's constentual.
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| i never said that sex causes stds. and a condom cannot protect you from all stds. |
yes you did.
| LMG earlier wrote: |
i think that jumping into bed with someone that you just met to satisfy an itch in your pants is nasty.
that's how STDs get spread. |
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| of course there's a chance that i could get aids from contaminated blood at a hospital, but there's an easier chance of me getting it by having casual sex. and the hospital won't leave me pregnant, because as you obviously know "it only takes one time". |
Again CAUSAL SEX DOES NOT EQUAL STDs. UNSAFE SEX EQUALS STDs. |
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little mixed girl
Joined: 11 Jun 2003
Location: shin hyesung's bed~
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from what i've seen most casual sex is also unsafe sex.
i see it as disrespectful of your mind and body to treat it like it's some rubbish on the floor. there's nothing wrong with waiting to have sex with someone, and there's nothing 'cool' or 'mature' about bragging about sexual conquests.
you can have one person who's had sex with 20 different people and another who's had sex with 1. the person with 20 to their name is not necessarily going to have any better sex than the person who did it once.
what's to be gained by jumping into bed with someone you've never met?
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