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[katydid]

I have to say that this is not just limited to when a white guy gets in a first date with a Korean girl. I remember my first year here one of my adult students really developed this crush on this other adult student of mine, and he really wanted to ask her out. She worked at McDonald's. My student (who was also becoming a very good friend of mine) went there to have lunch, and for him to finally get off his butt, grow a spine and ask her out. She came by our table and joked that we were on a date...he was temporarily mortified (I didn't take that personally) and then went up to ask her out.

She accepted and then she showed up for the date that weekend with another girlfriend. He was OK with it the first time...well, a little perturbed but said nothing...until the second time she accepted a "date" and showed up with a friend.

Unfortunately, but predictably, their relationship went nowhere.

[matthewwoodford]

[bucheon bum]

[kiwiboy_nz_99]

[bucheon bum]

[kiwiboy_nz_99]

Indeed Mr Bum.

Try this analogy. "If you spend all day in the sun you'll get sunburn". Sounds reasonable, but it's not true. If you wear suntan lotion, a hat, and spend the day under a sun umbrella it's highly unlikely you'll get sunburn. Just because it's possible to get sunburn, does that mean we ban beaches?
Or just because cars can kill, do we ban cars? No, rather we learn to wear seatbelts and to drive safely. The same should apply to sex.

[little mixed girl]

i don't really have time to respond to all the posts individually cuz i have a bus to catch.

but, yes, i do think it's nasty to just hop in the bed with someone.
you guys will get all icky if u think that the unused side dishes in a korean place get reused, but have no problem hoping in the bed with someone you've never met?

those girls i talked about are not people that i made up.
they enjoy sex just as much as you all seem to, so by the logic i see here, it's perfectly fine for them to have free sex.

i never said that sex causes stds. and a condom cannot protect you from all stds.
of course there's a chance that i could get aids from contaminated blood at a hospital, but there's an easier chance of me getting it by having casual sex. and the hospital won't leave me pregnant, because as you obviously know "it only takes one time".

if u are in a commited relationship with someone, then fine. have your sex. but i stand by what i said, hoping into bed with someone you don't know just to get your jollies off is nasty.

i know girls who are around my age (older or younger by no more than 2 yrs) who have gotten into bad situations through sex. none of that would have happened if people could just hold off.
i know people older than me who have gotten into bad situations because they had casual sex.

like i said. if you have someone that you've been with for a while and you want to have sex, fine. but 'hooking up/one night stands', etc, that's just nasty. it's all fun until you wake up in the morning with you *beep* shrivled off, or you get a call from the girl you were with saying "the condom broke, you're my baby's daddy and i want child support".

[crazylemongirl]

[little mixed girl]

from what i've seen most casual sex is also unsafe sex.

i see it as disrespectful of your mind and body to treat it like it's some rubbish on the floor. there's nothing wrong with waiting to have sex with someone, and there's nothing 'cool' or 'mature' about bragging about sexual conquests.
you can have one person who's had sex with 20 different people and another who's had sex with 1. the person with 20 to their name is not necessarily going to have any better sex than the person who did it once.

what's to be gained by jumping into bed with someone you've never met?
a few minutes or an hour of 'feel good'? the satisfaction of knowing that you could do it?

i could walk out in the street and get sex from the first guy i meet. but doing that only cheapens me. and there's no pride in showing off how easily i can get sex....

i think it's sad you guys feel that you have to get sex from your partner in order for it to be a 'real' relationship, or that sex will keep you interested in the person you're dating.

[cheem]

[bucheon bum]

[kiwiboy_nz_99]

[peemil]

LMG.

You've got a lot of growing up to do.

[little mixed girl]

this is starting to get old, and since i have midterms coming up i really can't spend all day arguing this out.

if you want to believe that casual sex is fine, then go for it.
as i said before, having sex with someone you have known for 5min is just skanky and whorish.

if you want to doubt how easy it would be for me to get sex then you can do that too. but i'm just talking about getting some random dude, not the next 'it' guy.

obviously i can't get anywhere in an arguement with someone who talks about how great smoking weed is
just like telling smokers that they can get lung cancer and die is not going to stop them from giving me the arguement that it 'feels good'.

you all have nothing to say about the teens that i've talked about who also like their permiscuous sex, which i find amusing. because i'm sure a 13yr old who's slept with 10 different guys will have a lot to say about how they also enjoy sex.

again, i can find people that are older than me, that have been involved in sexual relationships that would find this type of behavior appaulling.

this is like a health class, jerry springer nightmare.
"don't *beep* around"
"it feels good, stfu. i can do what i want with my body"

[The Man known as The Man]

kiwiboy, I like women who are nasty yet clean.