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stumptown · Posted: Wed Aug 10, 2005 5:25 am Post subject: When is it serious?

I've never posted things about my relationships (or lack of) here. But, I'm starting to feel wierd about my current relationship. I met a K-girl awhile back and we've gotten really close. Last week I met her and her brother for dinner, then later I partied with her brother without her. Now, this weekend I'm meeting her, her brothers, and her (divorced and remarried) mother. She comes across as not serious about a relationship (i.e. marriage) but we spend almost everyday together. Now that I'm getting close to the family, does that mean that something is expected to happen at some point in the future? In the past, girls I dated never intorduced me to their family, but now this is snowballing. Not the same 'snowballing' as in Clerks, but you know. Current husbands of Kgirls, let me know. Thanks

Captain Corea · Joined: 28 Feb 2005 Location: Seoul

Yup, sounds like it is getting serious.

Are you prepared if it is?

Kimchieluver · Joined: 02 Mar 2005

If you are meeting her family it is serious. Be prepared to ask the question and if not be prepared to tell her no.

Bulsajo · Joined: 16 Jan 2003

I think that in Korea- no matter how worldly the girl might seem, no matter how many times she says she's not really looking for a serious relationship- if you're meeting the family then it's serious.

stumptown · Posted: Wed Aug 10, 2005 5:57 am Post subject:

Yeah. From the second meeting on, I had that "feeling". Like, uh-oh, my single days are over. The thing is, I've never been serious about life and suddenly I feel like...it's time to be an adult and take on some responsibilities. But with this girl, I would walk through Hell and back.

Kimchieluver · Joined: 02 Mar 2005

Then you have found the right girl... now just call her a woman.

stumptown · Posted: Wed Aug 10, 2005 6:05 am Post subject:

rapier · Joined: 16 Feb 2003

Make a decision one way or the other, she's obviously expecting one. Sounds like it will be a "yes", good luck.

tzechuk · Joined: 20 Dec 2004

Follow your heart. Don't listen to your brain - that's where the confusion begins.

If your heart says *yes*, go for it. Otherwise, break up with her before it's too late.

chiaa · Joined: 23 Aug 2003

I met the mother, damn serious.

I met the father, it was for him to give his ok for the plunge.

Good luck man.

spidey112233 · Joined: 21 Jul 2005

mercury · Joined: 05 Dec 2004 Location: Pusan

Wow! Marry her right away! That is what I would do! I mean, sure, when people first meet the neurons are really pumping out the chemicals, I know how you feel, it is always the same way whenever people start dating. But remember..........................

after marriage the chemicals wear off REALLY FAST!

That is just human nature. It is called Habitation.

Just like eating at your favorite restaurant every day, again, and again.

So marry her FAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAASt, and then when she begins to put on weight, and in her thirties her face turns round like a moon, and she starts yelling at you, and then your kids are all running around the house..........you can have memories of the great honeymoon in Cheju Island Cool

Homer · Guest

When I met the mother I knew it was moving towards marriage. When I met the father the deal was sealed.

It's a normal step in a serious relationship.

bucheon bum · Joined: 16 Jan 2003

taegu girl · Joined: 20 Apr 2004 Location: California

hi! Yes, meeting the parents is pretty serious. All my Korean girl friends warned me about not meeting any guy's parents unless i was serious about the relationship. However, it does not mean you have to get married right away/soon after meeting them. I met my mother in law 2 years before my husband (Korean) and i got married. I officially met my father in law 4 weeks before we got married. We had seen each other before this but not really talked at all- i think he was waiting for his son to give up dating me. But, if it feels right and you are ready for the committment, go for it. best of luck Smile