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[Zyzyfer]

I thought I was antisocial until I read this thread.

[guangho]

I had an acquiantance once who was constantly pestering me to go to religious studies with him. I told my folks that it felt like he only hung out with me to get me into his program. They agreed and thought that such a relationship- where one person befriends another soley for personal gain- was perfectly normal. That is how most define friendship- something for something.

[pollyplummer]

Friends... I love the tv show. That might mean I'm a dum-dum, but I'm prepared to accept it. I think that it's a good idea to choose your close friends carefully. If you feel like someone is always taking and sucking the life out of you, then find some new friends. It doesn't matter how people in general define friends or friendship, because in the end you still choose your friends. I'd trade most of my friends for solitude, a book, and a blanket on rainy days. There are very few who feel like a second self to me- maybe two or three friends and my youngest sister. What drives me nuts about my friends is that many of them suck at correspondance and most of them are scattered all over the world.

[fusionbarnone]

Friends can be either expensive or, a bonus.
Look at Korean "friendships", these are weighed up carefully. Not slagging Koreans it's just people generally have to be careful in who they designate as, "friends".
Once, we almost got jailed in one country for not possessing an on-going ticket and 20 minutes to do something. A quick call to a travel agent friend and we came in under the 20 minutes.
The jewish people have a saying" No reciprocation, no friendship". I think that sums it up.

[Hater Depot]

We do?

[numazawa]

[EFLtrainer]

[Wrench]

Surprised that some of you haven't committed murder.

I have only a small handful of good friends the rest are acquaintances.

[kermo]

The 1st Law of Friendship (according to the philosopher Kermo) is this:

A friend is someone who makes a good thing better.

[EFLtrainer]

[kermo]

True, true, it's all true. By my definition, you could actually make friends with your leg of lamb.

Still, it's a deliberately loose definition. I have a Finnish friend who says he has only one "friend" in the world, though he is well-liked and fairly sociable. He reserves the term for someone he can depend upon to the ends of the earth. I'm not nearly as picky.

Here's a revised version:
A friend is someone you enjoy sharing experiences with.

This actually includes negative experiences, since our more significant friendships involve mutual support as well as enjoyment. The grammar implies that the sharing is ongoing, but there are no requirements for permanence.

I don't like the idea that a friendship is a transaction. It's valid, but rather unpaletteable. In any case, there's life beyond capitalism.

[EFLtrainer]

[desultude]

I have a few good friends, and one "best friend".

He is a gay Cuban American Dadaist poet, and sometimes our friendship is surreal. We have really different temperments (he is tempestuous and emotional- you know- gay and Cuban ) and different interests, but we understand each other pretty well.

My mark of someone being my really true friend- there is absolutely nothing we could not ask of each other that we wouldn't give each other.

[EFLtrainer]

[desultude]