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Corporal
Joined: 25 Jan 2003
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 Posted: Thu Feb 02, 2006 4:59 pm Post subject: Re: Weird wedding/marriage story |
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Personally, I would rather be single for the rest of my life than marry somebody I wasn't in love with. |
And we have Hollywood to thank for that rather silly sentiment. Arranged marriages have been around since the beginning of time and probably have a greater success rate than "love" marriages. Love comes and goes. Contracts are usually more binding. Google it, why don't you. |
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xingyiman
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| Posted: Thu Feb 02, 2006 6:54 pm Post subject: |
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| Sometimes I wonder if arranged marriages are really such a bad idea! |
With the exception of various high-profile politically motivated ones, throughout history arranged marriages suprisingly had good success rates. In the US our own form of arranged marriages in recent history were arrangements brought about by "matchmakers". Studies have shown that introduction processes between individuals facilitated by a mature 3rd party who juged overall compatibility had a high frequency of marital success as well as relative happiness of the husband and wife thoughout the married years. |
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mindmetoo
Joined: 02 Feb 2004
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| Posted: Thu Feb 02, 2006 9:57 pm Post subject: Re: Weird wedding/marriage story |
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| Corporal wrote: |
| periwinkle wrote: |
Personally, I would rather be single for the rest of my life than marry somebody I wasn't in love with. |
And we have Hollywood to thank for that rather silly sentiment. Arranged marriages have been around since the beginning of time and probably have a greater success rate than "love" marriages. Love comes and goes. Contracts are usually more binding. Google it, why don't you. |
The question is why do they succeed.
The positive spin is: 1) you are your own worst judge of who is best for you 2) both families have a vested interest in keeping the marriage working and provide a lot of support: financial, child care, etc.
The negative spin, as highlighted by the other poster: the woman is trapped. If she leaves an abusive marriage, she'll be shunned by her own family and penniless.
I'm sure the reality is a bit of A and a bit of B. But I dunno, I'd rather marry and figure out I made my own mistake than be trapped in a marriage. |
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periwinkle
Joined: 08 Feb 2003
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| Posted: Thu Feb 02, 2006 11:16 pm Post subject: Re: Weird wedding/marriage story |
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| Corporal wrote: |
| periwinkle wrote: |
Personally, I would rather be single for the rest of my life than marry somebody I wasn't in love with. |
And we have Hollywood to thank for that rather silly sentiment. Arranged marriages have been around since the beginning of time and probably have a greater success rate than "love" marriages. Love comes and goes. Contracts are usually more binding. Google it, why don't you. |
Corporal, why did you come back? I thought we ran you off, sweetie.
That was my opinion. Why would I need to google my opinion? It's not a silly sentiment. it's a common value among western people. Sorry your marriage sucks. |
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periwinkle
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| Posted: Thu Feb 02, 2006 11:21 pm Post subject: |
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So many in favor of arranged marriages. To each his own. So how many of you are in arranged marriages?
It wasn't my intention to discuss the merits and demerits of arranged marriages- I was just looking for some wild stories. IMO, it was out of the ordinary. |
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Corporal
Joined: 25 Jan 2003
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| Posted: Fri Feb 03, 2006 1:27 am Post subject: Re: Weird wedding/marriage story |
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| periwinkle wrote: |
Corporal, why did you come back? I thought we ran you off, sweetie.
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I was on vacation in the West. Sorry if you thought I left permanently.  And as for my marriage, well, I guess I do feel good that my husband doesn't have to try to sell those Ugg-ly boots to make a living. But then of course yours has you making pies and tarts to help pay the bills. |
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JongnoGuru
Joined: 25 May 2004
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Periwinkle, your serve. |
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TheUrbanMyth
Joined: 28 Jan 2003
Location: Retired
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| Posted: Fri Feb 03, 2006 10:34 pm Post subject: |
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Periwinkle, your serve. |
Nah she's too busy making racist comments. See "airport power trippers" thread |
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ilovebdt
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Location: Nr Seoul
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| Posted: Fri Feb 03, 2006 10:54 pm Post subject: |
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Although, I am not in favour of arranged marriages. I think they can work as long as both parties are completely honest with each other from the outset.
Point to note: My friends sister had an arranged marriage and the groom's family neglected to tell her family that their son was an abusive, Crack head before the wedding. |
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Mills
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Location: Incheon
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mindmetoo
Joined: 02 Feb 2004
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