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[mateomiguel]

[own_king]

[alabamaman]

To the OP,

I worked in a group home in the state of Rhode Island. Group Home Counselors had to wake the kids up every morning, since they had school. One morning I slid the comforter down so I could barely see his right shoulder, and the top of his head. In a house meeting two days later he said, "I feel like **** sexually harassed me!" I was under investigation by the State of Rhode Island, and suspended without pay. My company also investigated me. Kids looked differently at me. I felt humiliated, and felt like crap. Children make life very difficult for teachers sometimes by telling lies. This is not always the case. The little girl could have told a completely different story to bossman/bosswoman. She could have told the exact same story and it could have been twisted around to bust your b***s. Your remarks didn't seem like they were meant to make her feel bad, insecure, and so on and so forth. The best choice you can make from here on out is to raise your awareness. This is a good learning experience. Don't beat yourself up over this issue either.

Good luck,

alabamaman

[poet13]

Juregen. I stand by what I said, though I will admit my tone was heavy, much heavier than intended. I agree that children should be taught that their bodies are beautiful. However, I will teach mine and you teach yours. As a father, albeit (so far!) only to a son, I would be very disturbed if my child came home with a story similar to the OPs. Also, as foreigners in what I would describe as a naturally suspicious culture, in many situations we have the distinction of being guilty until proven innocent.

Yes, OP meant well; but yes, Op f-ed up.

I hope it turns out well for him.

[Roch]

[Juregen]

[austinfd]

This is no different than catching students in the act of looking up cuss words, or body parts in the dictionary.

In my American classrooms, I would occasionaly field strange requests from students who can't even spell "dictionary," much less know how to use it effectively, to borrow one from the shelf. Sometimes their endeavor is purely academic...other times it is a bit more prurient.

Anyway, I always confront them by saying "Are you surprised to find that word in the dictionary?" Their responses are classic.

If the school provides these books, and expects them to be used during class time, they are asking for conversations like that to be had. I'm not sure I would have used the word "beautiful" with a child, but you can't take that back!

[Captain Corea]

I htink the above poster has a great point. These are school provided books. If the school didn't want them discussed in class, they shouldn't be in the class.

[Juregen]

[jacl]

Ahhh

[alabamaman]

[ImaTeacher]

To the OP:

Your intentions were good and your comment was okay. This is one of those cases where people react differently based on whether you're male or female. If a woman had said it, it would be no big deal.

[laogaiguk]

[Homer]

[rocklee]

Yes the OP did make a mistake, but there's no need to jump on him.

In some cultures, people are a lot more expressive about sexuality than others.