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medstudent
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 Posted: Sat Oct 21, 2006 8:08 pm Post subject: ? |
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SPINOZA
Joined: 10 Jun 2005
Location: $eoul
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| Posted: Sat Oct 21, 2006 8:14 pm Post subject: |
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I'm 28 and I say....Why in God's name do you feel you should end it prematurely? Stay with each until he leaves. And in three years, when your time in Korea is up, who knows? A romantic reunion perhaps? Or moved on completely?
Don't break up. Kiss goodbye and cry together at Incheon Airport in 8/9 months. That's good advice. Break up then.
Totally bemused by your thinking, frankly. |
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Ginormousaurus
Joined: 27 Jul 2006
Location: 700 Ft. Pulpit
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| Posted: Sat Oct 21, 2006 8:18 pm Post subject: Re: Would you continue this relationship? |
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| medstudent wrote: |
| You will be my rebound guy or just friends. |
How you doin'? |
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gang ah jee
Joined: 14 Jan 2003
Location: city of paper
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| Posted: Sat Oct 21, 2006 8:29 pm Post subject: |
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medstudent, you wouldn't happen to be an atheist would you?
And wow has eslcafe totally turned into a personals board in the space of a couple of days. |
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flotsam
Joined: 28 Mar 2006
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| Posted: Sat Oct 21, 2006 8:38 pm Post subject: |
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medstudent, you wouldn't happen to be an atheist would you?
And wow has eslcafe totally turned into a personals board in the space of a couple of days. |
We need pictures. |
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Zyzyfer
Joined: 29 Jan 2003
Location: who, what, where, when, why, how?
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| Posted: Sat Oct 21, 2006 8:47 pm Post subject: Re: Would you continue this relationship? |
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| medstudent wrote: |
| You will be my rebound guy or just friends. |
Hahah well points for honesty at least. |
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Tiberious aka Sparkles
Joined: 23 Jan 2003
Location: I'm one cool cat!
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| Posted: Sat Oct 21, 2006 8:50 pm Post subject: Re: Would you continue this relationship? |
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I met him in OZ a year and half ago. He was a friend of friends. We kinda clicked at frist. I don't think I was attracted to him physically though . We met, chat and had wonderful time. I was in bad shape when I first arrived in OZ and seemed like my life was great cuz he was there.
We were like best friends. He's leaving korea next year which is 8 or 9 months away from now. We fell in love. But he's leaving. I am staying in Korea for another 3 years.
I tried to break up a few months ago but it didn't work. and here I am again thinking I cannot go any deeper in this relationship.
I need to break up and it's not easy. He wants me to be with him till he leaves. but I don't think I can unless he changes about leaving korea and be with me. of course I brought that up to him, he doesn't want to change his plan.
I know the answer for the question is quite easy which is be with him or not. Some of my friends think I am silly that I am willing to try to continue this relationship and I think it is now.
The question is I wish I could break up.
Therefore I need to go out on dates. I don't know many people. I live in singal. what would you say? At this point, being les doesn't sound so bad. I have been straight all along though.
You will be my rebound guy or just friends. I am not sure which one would be. I am hoping to be positive and willing to move on after many months of struggle "getting over this relationship".
I am asking for help^^ and reaching out.
Hope to hear from many interesting and smart people under the age of 28. |
Ah...not me of course, but I know this guy. Really funny, handsome eyes, great basketball player... |
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Leslie Cheswyck
Joined: 31 May 2003
Location: University of Western Chile
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| Posted: Sat Oct 21, 2006 9:19 pm Post subject: Re: Would you continue this relationship? |
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| medstudent wrote: |
| I met him in OZ a year and half ago. He was a friend of friends. We kinda clicked at frist. I don't think I was attracted to him physically though ... |
There's the whole problem right there. If you're not physically attracted to him, then no amount of "clicking" will make it work. Be friends, hang out, chat etc. But be honest with him. |
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riley
Joined: 08 Feb 2003
Location: where creditors can find me
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| Posted: Sat Oct 21, 2006 11:21 pm Post subject: |
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| Maybe someone should create a personals section on Dave's. We certainly seem to be getting a large amount. Speaking of that, doesn't pusanweb have one in their classifieds? |
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jinju
Joined: 22 Jan 2006
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Its easy.
If he likes Radiohead, drop him.
If he doesnt, he's a keeper! |
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JongnoGuru
Joined: 25 May 2004
Location: peeing on your doorstep
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| Posted: Sat Oct 21, 2006 11:53 pm Post subject: Re: Would you continue this relationship? |
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| medstudent wrote: |
| Therefore I need to go out on dates. I don't know many people. I live in singal. what would you say? At this point, being les doesn't sound so bad. I have been straight all along though. |
Kids these days.  |
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Tiger Beer
Joined: 07 Feb 2003
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| Posted: Sun Oct 22, 2006 12:29 am Post subject: |
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Fairly premature to breakup now. Whats the point?
The fact that you'd only want guys under 28.. means you will predominately find young guys who also just got here and probably little intention of wanting to be here beyond their 1-year contract, at least for now. So if you have one now who is here for the next 8-9 months.. its better than looking for lesbians or rebounders who will be out sooner. Plus who knows his mind in 8-9 months, if he's young, he probably will be out.. but if he's been around a little more.. maybe he'd stay if involved.
Not only that.. but how do you know you'll be here for 3 years yourself.. and what if you meet a guy who wants to be here for 4 years or 2 years? Is he immediately unacceptable for that.. his time doesn't coincide exactly with your time that you have for yourself? |
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Satori
Joined: 09 Dec 2005
Location: Above it all
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| Posted: Sun Oct 22, 2006 12:33 am Post subject: Re: Would you continue this relationship? |
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| medstudent wrote: |
| I met him in OZ a year and half ago. He was a friend of friends. We kinda clicked at frist. I don't think I was attracted to him physically though . |
Rubbish! You realise how many small decisions you need to make to end up in someone's bed? If you slept with him, you were attracted to him, period. Take responsiblility for your own decisions. If you really really weren't attracted to him, then you were ripping both him and yourself off emotionally. Now you want a "rebound guy". Sorry, I can't muster much sympathy... |
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Junior
Joined: 18 Nov 2005
Location: the eye
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| Posted: Sun Oct 22, 2006 1:38 am Post subject: Re: Would you continue this relationship? |
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| I don't think I was attracted to him physically though . |
Essential if you want a successful relationship.
You fell in like.
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| I tried to break up a few months ago but it didn't work. |
you either do, or you don't.
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| The question is I wish I could break up. |
You have to do it. Be nice about it..but spell it out. And don't look back.
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| Therefore I need to go out on dates. |
Break up first!!
Isn't it a bit ridiculous how people look around for other options before they break up?? You'll hurt him more and create a potentially bad situation if you start going behind his back. Breaking up isn't dependant on the other persons consent..
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| At this point, being les doesn't sound so bad. |
You R insulting this poor guy now. Just break up and be honest about it.
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| You will be my rebound guy |
Charming!
hahahaha- like the poor b/f? Just friends..wow.. What every guy dreams of! A personal assistant to get you drinks while you prospect for other guys.
No offense..but just change your situation honestly and go for what you want. |
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ajgeddes
Joined: 28 Apr 2004
Location: Yongsan
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| Posted: Sun Oct 22, 2006 1:45 am Post subject: Re: Would you continue this relationship? |
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| medstudent wrote: |
| The question is I wish I could break up. |
I don't know how to answer your question. |
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