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Keepongoing
Joined: 13 Feb 2003 Location: Korea
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Posted: Tue May 19, 2009 10:04 am Post subject: trying to get rid of korean girlfriend |
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My current girlfriend (Korean) is living with me, and I want her to leave my apartment. She wants to stay; even though I told her many times I don't love her and want her to find her own place. The lease is in my name, and I pay all the rent. I am a foreigner and have very little info on this situation. Is there somewhere I can go for help to get rid of her? PLEASE HELP ME! |
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gangwonbound
Joined: 27 Apr 2009
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Posted: Tue May 19, 2009 10:34 am Post subject: |
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Take her stuff and leave it outside the door. Change the locks too would be a good thing. |
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Mr. Pink

Joined: 21 Oct 2003 Location: China
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Posted: Tue May 19, 2009 11:30 am Post subject: |
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gangwonbound wrote: |
Take her stuff and leave it outside the door. Change the locks too would be a good thing. |
I was going to suggest the same thing.
You could also do the extreme thing: move and don't tell her where you are moving to. |
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Bloopity Bloop

Joined: 26 Apr 2009 Location: Seoul yo
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Posted: Tue May 19, 2009 3:28 pm Post subject: Re: trying to get rid of korean girlfriend |
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Keepongoing wrote: |
My current girlfriend (Korean) is living with me, and I want her to leave my apartment. She wants to stay; even though I told her many times I don't love her and want her to find her own place. The lease is in my name, and I pay all the rent. I am a foreigner and have very little info on this situation. Is there somewhere I can go for help to get rid of her? PLEASE HELP ME! |
Can you provide more context? From what you've written, it just seems like you've been suggesting that she move out-- and she doesn't really believe you.
What exactly have you done to make her leave? If you've only said things like, "You know... you've been here for a while now, don't you need to go home?" then we might be able to give you more help. |
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Kikomom

Joined: 24 Jun 2008 Location: them thar hills--Penna, USA--Zippy is my kid, the teacher in ROK. You can call me Kiko
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Posted: Tue May 19, 2009 3:31 pm Post subject: |
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How do men normally deal with this without feeling like a schmuck for being the cause of a broken heart? |
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Dazed and Confused
Joined: 10 Jan 2003
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Posted: Wed May 20, 2009 2:55 am Post subject: |
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Give her a dead line such as 15, 20, or 30 days. Tell her she has to move or you'll move her stuff out. If she isn't out by the deadline, you pack up her things, set them outside and change the locks. Have a copy of your lease handy and a neutral Korea friend nearby in case she calls the cops. |
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Joe666
Joined: 19 Nov 2008 Location: Jesus it's hot down here!
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Posted: Wed May 20, 2009 3:50 am Post subject: |
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Kikomom:How do men normally deal with this without feeling like a schmuck for being the cause of a broken heart?
Just think of how a women would deal with being the cause of a broken heart, but add common sense and rationality and PRESTO!, you have your answer.
gregtheman may be on to something, this could be a lot of fun! |
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Panda

Joined: 25 Oct 2008
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Posted: Wed May 20, 2009 5:12 am Post subject: |
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I guess there is a period in most (if not every) girls' life that they cant control their stubborness, even knowing its totally ill.
I feel for her, but I think no one could help her before she becomes aware what she has done, just do everything mean you can to get her out of your place.
But again, dont take any advice here seriously.  |
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Draz

Joined: 27 Jun 2007 Location: Land of Morning Clam
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Posted: Wed May 20, 2009 9:18 am Post subject: Re: trying to get rid of korean girlfriend |
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Keepongoing wrote: |
My current girlfriend (Korean) is living with me, and I want her to leave my apartment. She wants to stay; even though I told her many times I don't love her and want her to find her own place. The lease is in my name, and I pay all the rent. I am a foreigner and have very little info on this situation. Is there somewhere I can go for help to get rid of her? PLEASE HELP ME! |
She doesn't want to leave? Really? Wow, that's unexpected. She must really love you.  |
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JongnoGuru

Joined: 25 May 2004 Location: peeing on your doorstep
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Posted: Wed May 20, 2009 9:29 am Post subject: Re: trying to get rid of korean girlfriend |
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Keepongoing wrote: |
My current girlfriend .... I don't love her ... |
Problem here is the form. You're speaking singular, instead of plural or numberless.
Last edited by JongnoGuru on Wed May 20, 2009 9:30 am; edited 1 time in total |
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superacidjax

Joined: 17 Oct 2006 Location: Seoul
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Posted: Wed May 20, 2009 11:37 am Post subject: |
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Policia: "Officer I don't know this girl!" |
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reactionary
Joined: 22 Oct 2006 Location: korreia
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Posted: Wed May 20, 2009 4:10 pm Post subject: |
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I guess it goes to show you should be careful who you let live with you. A lot of these Korean girls are kind of like adopting a cat (sorry if that's distasteful, but it's the analogy that always came to my mind). They don't work - you house them, feed them, etc. Good luck getting them to "leave" though - you've become their benefactor and they may have nowhere else to go to.
You could just take her on a drive in the woods and then suddenly open the door and coax her out. "Run along, you're FREE now." |
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Zulethe

Joined: 04 Jul 2008
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Posted: Wed May 20, 2009 4:31 pm Post subject: |
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Unless you're looking for marriage, it's unwise to date a Korean girl. As the OP has unfortunately learned the hard way, Korean women don't know the meaning of casual live in dating.
Truuust me, I learned the hard way. I've broken many hearts and I won't anymore.
As much as I would love to hook up regularly with the hotties I'm sourrounded by, which is so tempting and very easy, I refrain.
My advice to you would be to introduce her to some other desperate western sucker. Tell her that he is in love with her and that he has secretly loved her for a long time.
Tell her that she'll be much happier with him. Act like you are very happy for him and her and cry like a baby as she moves out and wish them both the best.
It worked for me. |
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tzechuk

Joined: 20 Dec 2004
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Posted: Wed May 20, 2009 4:53 pm Post subject: |
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OP = are you serious? |
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samcheokguy

Joined: 02 Nov 2008 Location: Samcheok G-do
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Posted: Wed May 20, 2009 5:27 pm Post subject: |
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This thread is so wrong it's funny. |
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